I think things out and measure the options, weigh the plusses and minuses. "Think it through, manage the outcome and control the situation." Great for my work in sales, I have been succesful and I am admired by my coworkers. But it certainly isn't working in the marriage anymore. I've struggled to start this thread (or any thread) for days; "what if it sounds stupid, what if there are no responses?" So, I'll just start writing.
Certainly its brought success in fiscal and financial ways, but definitely not working at home. 29 years of marriage, 3 daughters; 1 remains at home and in high school. Honey has had enough and has made it clear. It is so ingrained and I know I need to change. Other issues exist...emotional support and understanding for her feelings, expressions and acts of love and lack of "driving the buss" with decisions, mutual activities and social planning. Although sex has been an issue in the past, thanks to my wife, she has again identified the issues and initiated a solution. Her hd has sparked my ld and we are currently enjoying a raucus dom/sub relationship. I know... she is a dream! The dom/ sub exists mainly in the bedroom but she wants more.
With diagnosed ADD, she is forgetful, disorganized, typically late for most things and it is very frustrating for me. So now, in my new role as the dom, i am supposed to organize her day, along with mine. I want to do this but as I started saying in this post, I can't make a f***ing decision.
I am probably more sub than dom by nature but I dont see our roles in this marriage, that way.
I would like to ask you all for suggestions to crack my reserved code, of 56 years, and help me to let go of my behaviors so I can hold on to my wife.
Thank you to all who are still reading, and thank you to all who reply.
Certainly its brought success in fiscal and financial ways, but definitely not working at home. 29 years of marriage, 3 daughters; 1 remains at home and in high school. Honey has had enough and has made it clear. It is so ingrained and I know I need to change. Other issues exist...emotional support and understanding for her feelings, expressions and acts of love and lack of "driving the buss" with decisions, mutual activities and social planning. Although sex has been an issue in the past, thanks to my wife, she has again identified the issues and initiated a solution. Her hd has sparked my ld and we are currently enjoying a raucus dom/sub relationship. I know... she is a dream! The dom/ sub exists mainly in the bedroom but she wants more.
With diagnosed ADD, she is forgetful, disorganized, typically late for most things and it is very frustrating for me. So now, in my new role as the dom, i am supposed to organize her day, along with mine. I want to do this but as I started saying in this post, I can't make a f***ing decision.
I am probably more sub than dom by nature but I dont see our roles in this marriage, that way.
I would like to ask you all for suggestions to crack my reserved code, of 56 years, and help me to let go of my behaviors so I can hold on to my wife.
Thank you to all who are still reading, and thank you to all who reply.
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