Long story short, my wife had an affair with my stepsons "father". This male (refuse to call him a man), is an absentee father at best, deadbeat at worst.
When I confronted him, the first words out of his mouth were not to tell his wife and he would vanish out of our lives forever, his sons included. No hesitation, no remorse, just threw away his son to save his sorry ass. He had the affair while his wife was 8 months pregnant. What a "man"!
My stepson never had a real relationship with him. For all intents and purposes, I was his father in every way. Still, it cant be easy to know your bio father threw you away to save is ass. I knew it had to hurt. Finally, he blew up this past weekend in the worst way possible. I had to physically restrain him as it got pretty ugly. He finally let it all out about how hurt he was that his "father" abandoned him. He felt like he lost both families because he doesnt consider us a family anymore.
I tried my best to let him know it had nothing to do with him. I told him his "father" wasnt a man. It takes a man to raise a man I told him. Also told him it takes a special kid to make another man love him like his own.
So my wife finally saw the full extent of the destruction that she caused. Of course she was crying her eyes out the whole night and kept saying "Look what I've done" and "I'm the cause of all this". Of course, having to talk about that ass clown triggered me pretty hard as well. It took everything I had not to dump on my wife as she was blaming herself.....oh but I wanted to so very bad.
So that leads me to an interesting crossroads. I know that clown wont ever come see the boy. Not only does he have to worry about me, but he knows that my stepson will rat him out to his wife. If I tell his wife and after the dust clears, how will I handle having to see this clown every other week if he decides to see his son? I cant imagine how hard it will be for my stepson in such a hostile environment.
My wife really created the worst possible situation for everyone. She finally saw how destructive her behavior was. I said all along, she betrayed my stepson much more than she betrayed me. Sad thing is, if we did divorce, she would probably still get custody of my daughter just because she is female. Its sad that people never consider the consequences of their actions before its to late.
When I confronted him, the first words out of his mouth were not to tell his wife and he would vanish out of our lives forever, his sons included. No hesitation, no remorse, just threw away his son to save his sorry ass. He had the affair while his wife was 8 months pregnant. What a "man"!
My stepson never had a real relationship with him. For all intents and purposes, I was his father in every way. Still, it cant be easy to know your bio father threw you away to save is ass. I knew it had to hurt. Finally, he blew up this past weekend in the worst way possible. I had to physically restrain him as it got pretty ugly. He finally let it all out about how hurt he was that his "father" abandoned him. He felt like he lost both families because he doesnt consider us a family anymore.
I tried my best to let him know it had nothing to do with him. I told him his "father" wasnt a man. It takes a man to raise a man I told him. Also told him it takes a special kid to make another man love him like his own.
So my wife finally saw the full extent of the destruction that she caused. Of course she was crying her eyes out the whole night and kept saying "Look what I've done" and "I'm the cause of all this". Of course, having to talk about that ass clown triggered me pretty hard as well. It took everything I had not to dump on my wife as she was blaming herself.....oh but I wanted to so very bad.
So that leads me to an interesting crossroads. I know that clown wont ever come see the boy. Not only does he have to worry about me, but he knows that my stepson will rat him out to his wife. If I tell his wife and after the dust clears, how will I handle having to see this clown every other week if he decides to see his son? I cant imagine how hard it will be for my stepson in such a hostile environment.
My wife really created the worst possible situation for everyone. She finally saw how destructive her behavior was. I said all along, she betrayed my stepson much more than she betrayed me. Sad thing is, if we did divorce, she would probably still get custody of my daughter just because she is female. Its sad that people never consider the consequences of their actions before its to late.
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