I'm worried my husband has an unnatural obsession with sex. My husband is always saying I'm "cold" towards him because we don't have sex everyday. I don't consider myself cold I am a very affectionate and loving person! I'm always kissing him hugging him snuggling with him while watching movies holding hands etc. and we have sex several times a week or we used to until he started obsessing over it non stop. he says he wants "romance because guys like romance too!" I leave him love notes in his car he tells me to stop it because that's stupid. I send him love note texts he says that's stupid.I planned a big surprise plus romantic gesture for him on our 24th anniversary. front row seats to see his favorite rock band a meet n greet afterwards plus a stay at a beautiful B and B with an entire cottage to ourselves wine tastings and tours and candlelight dinners. Guess what? He didn't appreciate one minute of it why? Because he was too busy obsessing non sto p about the amount of sex he DIDN'T think he was going to have. He says none of those romantic gestures mean anything because the only thing that means anything is having sex everyday and because we don't do it every day I'm a cold fish and a ***** and BTW he calls me a ***** the way other husbands call their wives "hunny" He never shuts up about sex. almost every word that comes out of his mouth is about sex..when he sees a hot girl he makes rude sexual comments about her or me and her together. It doesn't stop there. It also trickles down to my girlfriends. He obsesses non stop over them. making sexual comments about them or me with them. I found on our computer sexual fiction that he had written about my girlfriends who by the way I dumped because of that. Now I'm alone with no friends for the past five years. His guy friends call him a " pig" . I was in the bathroom at his best friends wedding and I over heard the bride telling her friend" yep he's a pig all he talks ab out is sex. He's got a strange obsession with it and it's so creepy!"
I was mortified. I told him about this convo I overheard and he was shocked and speechless. Did it have an impact on him? Yes..for a few days then it was back to non stop obsessing over sex. Every conversation makes it's way to be about sex. When I ask what would he like for dinner or where would you like to go for dinner..he replies every time with Something sexual in nature. We are painting the bathroom I'm in the store looking at paint samples he turns to me and says what color did you choose? Pu--- pink? He said it several times and loud enough so others could hear it! When I told him to stop he got very angry with me and said if I didn't shut up he would "make a scene".
This has been going on for 25 years in the past five years it's gotten really bad. He is always looking at porn on the internet and our computer is overloaded with pictures of women having sex with each other that he has downloaded from porn sites. He has hundreds of porn movies an entire chest of drawers and every drawer is filled with porn.plus plastic storage boxes filled with movies porn catalogs etc. I even found pictures he's taken of my collectible barbie dolls in sexual positions! When I confronted him about the dolls. He said "I'm just clowning around". The non stop obsessing over sex has driven me to the point where I don't have interest in it at all. I've told him this many times and he blames me for it. he says he obsesses over it because we don't do it every day but he " will try to change" He will stop obsessing for a week or two and things get much better then eventually it's right back to obsessing again. A few months ago we went on another trip to see h is favorite band. I told hime before we left that if I hear one complaint about the amount of sex we did or didn't have. If you make one rude sexual comment about me or anyone or anything you WILL be served with divorce papers when we come home. It was the best vacation we had in 25 years. Any thoughts?
I was mortified. I told him about this convo I overheard and he was shocked and speechless. Did it have an impact on him? Yes..for a few days then it was back to non stop obsessing over sex. Every conversation makes it's way to be about sex. When I ask what would he like for dinner or where would you like to go for dinner..he replies every time with Something sexual in nature. We are painting the bathroom I'm in the store looking at paint samples he turns to me and says what color did you choose? Pu--- pink? He said it several times and loud enough so others could hear it! When I told him to stop he got very angry with me and said if I didn't shut up he would "make a scene".
This has been going on for 25 years in the past five years it's gotten really bad. He is always looking at porn on the internet and our computer is overloaded with pictures of women having sex with each other that he has downloaded from porn sites. He has hundreds of porn movies an entire chest of drawers and every drawer is filled with porn.plus plastic storage boxes filled with movies porn catalogs etc. I even found pictures he's taken of my collectible barbie dolls in sexual positions! When I confronted him about the dolls. He said "I'm just clowning around". The non stop obsessing over sex has driven me to the point where I don't have interest in it at all. I've told him this many times and he blames me for it. he says he obsesses over it because we don't do it every day but he " will try to change" He will stop obsessing for a week or two and things get much better then eventually it's right back to obsessing again. A few months ago we went on another trip to see h is favorite band. I told hime before we left that if I hear one complaint about the amount of sex we did or didn't have. If you make one rude sexual comment about me or anyone or anything you WILL be served with divorce papers when we come home. It was the best vacation we had in 25 years. Any thoughts?
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