Since a heated discussion this weekend had my wife raise the topic that I move out, I figure I should be prepared. It's the third time she's raised it -- five years ago, four months ago, and now. I don't quite see how turning the tables and telling her she should move out would work, since we have two kids at home and she works only part time so she can pick them up at school. I do drop-off in the mornings.
Our relationship might go either way, but if we separate/divorce, I'm curious about three things:
1) Does joint custody mean a 50/50 split on time with the kids, or is more of a legal concept and actual time spent is a separate negotiation?
2) Official custody aside, what are the factors that permit half time with Dad, half time with Mom, weekends are split? I don't want Wednesday night and every other weekend, but that seems common when Dads move out. If I stay near-by (walking distance), do I have a better chance of getting more evenings with the kids? (I don't love the idea of making them go to different homes, but it beats being a one night a week Dad). Would I have to line up some sort of after-school supervision, or can they still get picked up by their Mom, and then head to my place in the evening?
3) Is the one who isn't on duty for a weekend expected to disappear? I've been at lacrosse tournaments the last two weekends. The two kids I know with divorced parents never had them both there each weekend. One or the other. I only see both at one time only events like parent-teacher conferences and eighth grade graduations. Is that ordered, or just encouraged?
And, to get responses from those with experience, should this topic go in life after divorce?
Our relationship might go either way, but if we separate/divorce, I'm curious about three things:
1) Does joint custody mean a 50/50 split on time with the kids, or is more of a legal concept and actual time spent is a separate negotiation?
2) Official custody aside, what are the factors that permit half time with Dad, half time with Mom, weekends are split? I don't want Wednesday night and every other weekend, but that seems common when Dads move out. If I stay near-by (walking distance), do I have a better chance of getting more evenings with the kids? (I don't love the idea of making them go to different homes, but it beats being a one night a week Dad). Would I have to line up some sort of after-school supervision, or can they still get picked up by their Mom, and then head to my place in the evening?
3) Is the one who isn't on duty for a weekend expected to disappear? I've been at lacrosse tournaments the last two weekends. The two kids I know with divorced parents never had them both there each weekend. One or the other. I only see both at one time only events like parent-teacher conferences and eighth grade graduations. Is that ordered, or just encouraged?
And, to get responses from those with experience, should this topic go in life after divorce?
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