She told me that she's not attracted to me sexually any more, because I'm not fun any more. I'm too uptight. We had our first son 9 months ago and admittedly, I've been highstrung.
But there's more...she also has a crush on someone. We were in an open relationship before we had our son, and she became close to this guy. Now, she's thinking about him because I'm not fun to be around.
She was ready to end it last night. But after we talked, we agreed it wasn't the best thing for our son and that she was willing to give it some time. My main point was that it's not fair for her to drop this bomb on me, on us, without giving some leeways to make adjustments. FWIW, we've been together for 10 years, married for 8. We have lived in Asia for 4 years. She is from Europe, and I from the States. So splitting up makes things very complicated.
I've known that I was too intense about certain things. I'm talking myself down, but it will take some time. These thinking patterns are habitual.
Any advice?
But there's more...she also has a crush on someone. We were in an open relationship before we had our son, and she became close to this guy. Now, she's thinking about him because I'm not fun to be around.
She was ready to end it last night. But after we talked, we agreed it wasn't the best thing for our son and that she was willing to give it some time. My main point was that it's not fair for her to drop this bomb on me, on us, without giving some leeways to make adjustments. FWIW, we've been together for 10 years, married for 8. We have lived in Asia for 4 years. She is from Europe, and I from the States. So splitting up makes things very complicated.
I've known that I was too intense about certain things. I'm talking myself down, but it will take some time. These thinking patterns are habitual.
Any advice?
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