I'm absolutely miserable but can't walk because my husband keeps threatening to use child custody against me.
Situation: I met him while living and working in his country. Things quickly soured after the wedding as he drank, smoked and gambled excessively, stayed out all night, and we lost what little savings we had because of his habits.
Then I got pregnant. For a spell the prospect of fatherhood seemed to have matured him, but even before our son was born things went south again. I found out he'd whittled down our savings again. This time, we couldn't afford to extend my visa in the country or our mortgage, so not only was the house repossessed, I was deported for overstaying.
We made a snap decision to move back to my home country and start anew. It has been nearly two years, and while there have been some improvements--away from his social influences, he stopped gambling, and smoke e-cigs rather than real cigarettes now. However, the drinking continues on and off, and he tends to get drunk with our son around.
I have tried to be affectionate, but he absolutely disgusts me now. Everything he says and does gets on my nerves, and in my gut I know our marriage is over. But I can't go through with a divorce, because my son shares the same citizenship as his dad. Should we break up, I will have no legal leg to stand on in terms of custody, and he knows it. Everytime we have an argument, he threatens to move back with our son. I have tried my best to keep the peace and keep him pacified, but I don't know how much longer I can keep it up with this threat forever hanging over my head. Just today he threatened to do it again. He's still not talking to me, and I fear that this time is the one, when I will finally lose my son!
I have even tried applying for a citizenship for my son in my home country but as usual, buteaucracy takes time.
Does anyone know the law regarding divorce when parents are of different nationalities who can help? From what I've read up, I seem to be stuck in a rut that only his death will solve.I have been praying everyday for his death because I am so lost as to what else to do.
Situation: I met him while living and working in his country. Things quickly soured after the wedding as he drank, smoked and gambled excessively, stayed out all night, and we lost what little savings we had because of his habits.
Then I got pregnant. For a spell the prospect of fatherhood seemed to have matured him, but even before our son was born things went south again. I found out he'd whittled down our savings again. This time, we couldn't afford to extend my visa in the country or our mortgage, so not only was the house repossessed, I was deported for overstaying.
We made a snap decision to move back to my home country and start anew. It has been nearly two years, and while there have been some improvements--away from his social influences, he stopped gambling, and smoke e-cigs rather than real cigarettes now. However, the drinking continues on and off, and he tends to get drunk with our son around.
I have tried to be affectionate, but he absolutely disgusts me now. Everything he says and does gets on my nerves, and in my gut I know our marriage is over. But I can't go through with a divorce, because my son shares the same citizenship as his dad. Should we break up, I will have no legal leg to stand on in terms of custody, and he knows it. Everytime we have an argument, he threatens to move back with our son. I have tried my best to keep the peace and keep him pacified, but I don't know how much longer I can keep it up with this threat forever hanging over my head. Just today he threatened to do it again. He's still not talking to me, and I fear that this time is the one, when I will finally lose my son!
I have even tried applying for a citizenship for my son in my home country but as usual, buteaucracy takes time.
Does anyone know the law regarding divorce when parents are of different nationalities who can help? From what I've read up, I seem to be stuck in a rut that only his death will solve.I have been praying everyday for his death because I am so lost as to what else to do.
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