Is 'as good as it gets', good enough…..
My sitch (well documented on here), Is more of a quality issue, my W doesn't say no, but it is hardly an enthusiastic yes. Sex is less frequent than I want, around 2-3 times per month but as big of a problem is it is really lacking in spark. I have had the talk (a few times, bought books, toys lingerie) only to find myself back at passionless starfish sex.
Recently we had some 'relationship special events' that I was hoping would get her to raise the bar a bit, made some suggestions / requests. Ended up having the same, not to exciting sex, certainly nothing special for the 'special occasion'. Fine for a Tuesday after work quickie but hardly anything remarkable (or even better than ordinary). I have tried setting the mood, being extra romantic (I'm usually a pretty romantic guy) but it ends in willing but far from wanting sex from her.
It has never been great but certainly has gotten less inspired over the years. In my quest to have a great sex life with my W, the opposite has happened, my expectations keep lowering, yet still are not met.. Is 'as good as it gets' good enough? If not where do you go from here?
My sitch (well documented on here), Is more of a quality issue, my W doesn't say no, but it is hardly an enthusiastic yes. Sex is less frequent than I want, around 2-3 times per month but as big of a problem is it is really lacking in spark. I have had the talk (a few times, bought books, toys lingerie) only to find myself back at passionless starfish sex.
Recently we had some 'relationship special events' that I was hoping would get her to raise the bar a bit, made some suggestions / requests. Ended up having the same, not to exciting sex, certainly nothing special for the 'special occasion'. Fine for a Tuesday after work quickie but hardly anything remarkable (or even better than ordinary). I have tried setting the mood, being extra romantic (I'm usually a pretty romantic guy) but it ends in willing but far from wanting sex from her.
It has never been great but certainly has gotten less inspired over the years. In my quest to have a great sex life with my W, the opposite has happened, my expectations keep lowering, yet still are not met.. Is 'as good as it gets' good enough? If not where do you go from here?
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