Hi all. I realise that this is a very sensitive topic to bring up with your other half but I'm at wits end now.
We've been married for 2 years but been together for almost 8 years. I know that I am a very lucky man - she's very caring and would do anything for me, has a very successful career and even surprised me with her amazing cooking skills! I couldn't have found a better woman to spend the rest of my life with.
But I can't shake off the fact that I want her to lose weight. Just to be clear, she isn't obese or anything but she has gone up 2 dress sizes since we got together and it's very noticeable; she was a UK size 10 (US 6) but now she's a UK 14 (US 10).
So my issue here is that I feel my wife has got very comfortable and not tried since we became exclusive all those years ago. But for me, being in an exclusive relationship, and now married, has motivated me to stay in shape. I knew that I was quite overweight and unhealthy when we first started dating so my now wife has been the motivation to get my butt off the couch and do something about it! I've since taken up running and in the last few years, I've ran 3 half marathons and a full marathon.
I don't want my wife to be skinny - I want her to stay healthy and look after herself. I'm actually a fan of curvy women, so i don't really care about her size. I actually find it really hot and sexy when she works out (in her current size)!
She's also admitted that she needs to lose weight and over the years I've created several diet and gym plans but she always finds an excuse to not stick with it (the main one being busy at work). The wider issue for me here is that the diet and gym plans were a way for us to do something and accomplish together as a couple.
I adore my wife and love her so much. I want her to stay physically attracted to me hence all the running and working out - I believe that you should always try to impress your other half as much as possible in marriage and I suppose this is my way of doing so. She's even been my motivation to do well in my career and generally be a better person.
I can't deny that in recent months, I've started to feel less attracted to her - not because she's put on weight but because she doesn't try to stay healthy (does that make sense?). For example, she's just not finished any of the gym workout plans that i've made for her.
Everytime i bring it up my wife shuts down completely. I've really tried my best and took the soft approach to begin with but now even i get annoyed at myself because i feel like as if I'm now forcing her to workout when I know it's fundamentally up to her to do it. I really don't want to force it on her but just feel like this after so many years of her saying she will lose weight for herself but no progress.
I'm a big gym fan and got myself into good shape for her. Am i wrong to expect the same from her?
I hope all of this made sense and thank you for reading.
We've been married for 2 years but been together for almost 8 years. I know that I am a very lucky man - she's very caring and would do anything for me, has a very successful career and even surprised me with her amazing cooking skills! I couldn't have found a better woman to spend the rest of my life with.
But I can't shake off the fact that I want her to lose weight. Just to be clear, she isn't obese or anything but she has gone up 2 dress sizes since we got together and it's very noticeable; she was a UK size 10 (US 6) but now she's a UK 14 (US 10).
So my issue here is that I feel my wife has got very comfortable and not tried since we became exclusive all those years ago. But for me, being in an exclusive relationship, and now married, has motivated me to stay in shape. I knew that I was quite overweight and unhealthy when we first started dating so my now wife has been the motivation to get my butt off the couch and do something about it! I've since taken up running and in the last few years, I've ran 3 half marathons and a full marathon.
I don't want my wife to be skinny - I want her to stay healthy and look after herself. I'm actually a fan of curvy women, so i don't really care about her size. I actually find it really hot and sexy when she works out (in her current size)!
She's also admitted that she needs to lose weight and over the years I've created several diet and gym plans but she always finds an excuse to not stick with it (the main one being busy at work). The wider issue for me here is that the diet and gym plans were a way for us to do something and accomplish together as a couple.
I adore my wife and love her so much. I want her to stay physically attracted to me hence all the running and working out - I believe that you should always try to impress your other half as much as possible in marriage and I suppose this is my way of doing so. She's even been my motivation to do well in my career and generally be a better person.
I can't deny that in recent months, I've started to feel less attracted to her - not because she's put on weight but because she doesn't try to stay healthy (does that make sense?). For example, she's just not finished any of the gym workout plans that i've made for her.
Everytime i bring it up my wife shuts down completely. I've really tried my best and took the soft approach to begin with but now even i get annoyed at myself because i feel like as if I'm now forcing her to workout when I know it's fundamentally up to her to do it. I really don't want to force it on her but just feel like this after so many years of her saying she will lose weight for herself but no progress.
I'm a big gym fan and got myself into good shape for her. Am i wrong to expect the same from her?
I hope all of this made sense and thank you for reading.
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