I've been married over 10 years with 2 kids (5 and 2). Things have generally been fine, though we've had a couple of explosions over the years.
The last 2 years i've felt us growing apart. He doesn't open up to me about anything, he doesn't share his day. The only things he wants to discuss are my work, the house and the kids. Most of the time he acts like a kid. He farts and laughs (like the kids), he gives me wet willies and acts like a 5 year old. We rarely do anything together without the kids, except sex (which is fine actually). Bottom line, i don't feel connected and when i raise it with him, he dismisses it and tells me he loves me.
Last weekend i guess i was on edge. He claimed i was trying to pick fights when he was snappy about everything. Then he decided he didn't want to fight and that i should go upstairs to cool down. He physically restrained me from going in the kitchen! I couldn't believe he would use his hands on me like that! He never has before.
Later that evening, he apologized for "overreacting" but didn't really apologize for restraining me. I told him it was unacceptible and hurtful and he responded that it wasn't a huge deal and i shouldn't overreact.
Since then, i feel my trust in him slipping. I feel less and less of a connection. i think he loves me and I love him, but this lack of connection is poisoning everything and has me on edge and i don't know what to do about it.
And before anyone asks, I'm faithful and I'm sure he is.
The last 2 years i've felt us growing apart. He doesn't open up to me about anything, he doesn't share his day. The only things he wants to discuss are my work, the house and the kids. Most of the time he acts like a kid. He farts and laughs (like the kids), he gives me wet willies and acts like a 5 year old. We rarely do anything together without the kids, except sex (which is fine actually). Bottom line, i don't feel connected and when i raise it with him, he dismisses it and tells me he loves me.
Last weekend i guess i was on edge. He claimed i was trying to pick fights when he was snappy about everything. Then he decided he didn't want to fight and that i should go upstairs to cool down. He physically restrained me from going in the kitchen! I couldn't believe he would use his hands on me like that! He never has before.
Later that evening, he apologized for "overreacting" but didn't really apologize for restraining me. I told him it was unacceptible and hurtful and he responded that it wasn't a huge deal and i shouldn't overreact.
Since then, i feel my trust in him slipping. I feel less and less of a connection. i think he loves me and I love him, but this lack of connection is poisoning everything and has me on edge and i don't know what to do about it.
And before anyone asks, I'm faithful and I'm sure he is.
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