During the week leading up to my wife's period, it's a crapshoot on whether she'll feel any attraction or not, but we still have sex during this week prior. That means 1 to 3 times sex will be "all about me" or "just for me". It's far from corpse sex but also not up to our usual standards. Anyways, last night is the last day before she starts. She jumped on me to get things started, and as we're making out she keeps swatting my hand from here, then there and then practically everywhere. Soon I put my hands up and keep kissing her and told her I'm not touching you now since you left everything off limits. Anyways, she decides to go change into her nightie - but goes into the bathroom and shuts the door to do it. I decided that I had enough and I told her that I don't want sex because she won't even let me see her naked let alone touch her.
She ended up feeling hurt, felt rejected and after we talked it over a little bit (not right away, but 10 min or so after I called it quits). So this really confused me, because while she wasn't in the mood, flat as can be because she's about to start her period, etc...she felt hurt and rejected because I told her I didn't want it anymore. I explained to her that I wasn't going to "play this game" with her tonight because I wasn't getting anywhere and she took away the things I needed to get excited. Was I too harsh? Also, I wouldn't exactly call her HD - maybe ND or slightly LD - yet she felt hurt because I was refusing her. All those times she told me she's "doing it for me" also must have meant it was for her also? After all these years of marriage, why not tell me? She's definitely NOT a games player, but is coy around sex. I don't get it.
She ended up feeling hurt, felt rejected and after we talked it over a little bit (not right away, but 10 min or so after I called it quits). So this really confused me, because while she wasn't in the mood, flat as can be because she's about to start her period, etc...she felt hurt and rejected because I told her I didn't want it anymore. I explained to her that I wasn't going to "play this game" with her tonight because I wasn't getting anywhere and she took away the things I needed to get excited. Was I too harsh? Also, I wouldn't exactly call her HD - maybe ND or slightly LD - yet she felt hurt because I was refusing her. All those times she told me she's "doing it for me" also must have meant it was for her also? After all these years of marriage, why not tell me? She's definitely NOT a games player, but is coy around sex. I don't get it.
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