D-Day, the day your life gets flipped upside down.
The day your heart is crushed and you can't catch your breath.
The day you bawl your eyes out like a child.
The day you wander about in a stupor of emotions.
The day you vomit and wretch.
The day where your emotions ricochet from hurt-to-anger-to-loss-to-fear-to-that place nobody wants to admit they've gone.
The day where one issue is all consuming.
The day you feel totally alone.
The day you feel a complete failure.
The day you question everything you've done in your marriage over the last few days-months-years.
The day you worry about your kids in a manner you'd never thought you'd have to do.
D-Day. Discovery Day. The day you realize the one you committed yourself to for life has betrayed you.
This post is for the newest members here. The ones that are experiencing some or all of the above. It is also for the lurkers who haven't yet been able to join the community and seek help at a time when you need it most.
There are lots of places to find help. Family, friends, clergy, counselors, books.... There is also TAM. A community of anonymous people, brought together with a single commonality. A marriage in trouble. Some of us survived, some of us divorced, some are still fighting, some have given up, some have betrayed, some have been betrayed, some are bitter and some are thankful. "Coping with Infidelity" is the place nobody wants to be but it is the place with a tremendous amount of support and sage. It can be confusing, brutal and enlightening all at the same time. If you have found yourself here, listen to it all. Sort it out. Apply what fits. Apply what doesn't seem to. Work for a solution that is best for you, your spouse, your marriage and your kids.
D-Day. Monday, May 21st 2007. 8:05 AM.
The day my life got flipped upside down.
The day my heart was crushed and I couldn't catch my breath.
The day I bawled my eyes out like a child.
The day I wandered about in a stupor of emotions.
The day I vomited and wretched.
The day where my emotions ricocheted from hurt-to-anger-to-loss-to-fear-to-that place I didn't want to admit I'd gone
The day where one issue was all consuming.
The day I felt totally alone.
The day I felt a complete failure.
The day I questioned everything I'd done in my marriage over the last few days-months-years.
The day I worried about my kids in a manner I'd never thought I'd have to do.
D-Day. Discovery Day. The day I realized the one I'd committed to for life had betrayed me.
Later this summer, she and I will happily celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary. TAM had a lot to do with that.
The day your heart is crushed and you can't catch your breath.
The day you bawl your eyes out like a child.
The day you wander about in a stupor of emotions.
The day you vomit and wretch.
The day where your emotions ricochet from hurt-to-anger-to-loss-to-fear-to-that place nobody wants to admit they've gone.
The day where one issue is all consuming.
The day you feel totally alone.
The day you feel a complete failure.
The day you question everything you've done in your marriage over the last few days-months-years.
The day you worry about your kids in a manner you'd never thought you'd have to do.
D-Day. Discovery Day. The day you realize the one you committed yourself to for life has betrayed you.
This post is for the newest members here. The ones that are experiencing some or all of the above. It is also for the lurkers who haven't yet been able to join the community and seek help at a time when you need it most.
There are lots of places to find help. Family, friends, clergy, counselors, books.... There is also TAM. A community of anonymous people, brought together with a single commonality. A marriage in trouble. Some of us survived, some of us divorced, some are still fighting, some have given up, some have betrayed, some have been betrayed, some are bitter and some are thankful. "Coping with Infidelity" is the place nobody wants to be but it is the place with a tremendous amount of support and sage. It can be confusing, brutal and enlightening all at the same time. If you have found yourself here, listen to it all. Sort it out. Apply what fits. Apply what doesn't seem to. Work for a solution that is best for you, your spouse, your marriage and your kids.
D-Day. Monday, May 21st 2007. 8:05 AM.
The day my life got flipped upside down.
The day my heart was crushed and I couldn't catch my breath.
The day I bawled my eyes out like a child.
The day I wandered about in a stupor of emotions.
The day I vomited and wretched.
The day where my emotions ricocheted from hurt-to-anger-to-loss-to-fear-to-that place I didn't want to admit I'd gone
The day where one issue was all consuming.
The day I felt totally alone.
The day I felt a complete failure.
The day I questioned everything I'd done in my marriage over the last few days-months-years.
The day I worried about my kids in a manner I'd never thought I'd have to do.
D-Day. Discovery Day. The day I realized the one I'd committed to for life had betrayed me.
Later this summer, she and I will happily celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary. TAM had a lot to do with that.
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