We've been married for 25 years this coming May. When the kids were younger I dreamed of D but knew I had to wait for them to grow up and leave home first. So now both children are either in college or graduated and working, both away from home. Wife has had a long relationship with alcohol, this one has lasted 6 years and is growing. Yesterday I had to take her car away because she drove drunk AGAIN. After repeated warnings I had no alternative. She's been to 3 different treatment facilities, costing us a fortune, without the slightest improvement. Last week I told her, her parents, her sisters, and our children that if I come home and she's drunk again I will have to leave. It took 2 whole days of sobriety, but when I had to go to the ER she took the opportunity to get hammered. I begged and pleaded and she lasted 4 more sober days until yesterday (a record for the last 6 years by the way). She rear-ended an old lady in a parking lot. The cop didn't che ck her sobriety but when we got home I did and she blew a .06 (this was 2 weeks ago). Anyway her car repair was complete so she came to pick me up in my company's truck so we could go get her car, and she was drunk. I had repeatedly told her that if she drinks and drives again I would take the car. I had to follow through and have, so the car is gone. She has never supported herself, hardly worked a day in her life, wants me to buy her a Porsche, threatens suicide if I leave, but keeps drinking. I'm exhausted. The kids both tell me I have a right to be happy and that I should leave her, but I have a deep sense of duty/responsibility after all I did vow "for better for worse....till death do us part". I work from 7am until 7pm. I do all the cooking. I pay for a weekly maid. She contributes absolutely nothing to the relationship except dysfunction and misery. Someone, Please. Tell me I'm an idiot and to get out today. Tell me it's ok. Tell me it's unfair to ME to stay.
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