A friend of mine from years past when our grown children were young pals and we were neighbors has recently gotten divorced from her cheating spouse. They had been married probably at least 30 years when we heard they were divorced and he was living with the OW and out and about wih her publicly.
Our lives had gone down different paths as our children entered high school and we moved out into the country. I would still see her occasionally around town and we were invited to her childrens weddings during the time she was still married.
While I do not know the details of what happened and we had drifted apart to the point where I was not a confidant, I really feel torn as to whether I should reach out to her in some way, especially at the holidays as I imagine she is feeling rather blue. They were still together last Christmas.
I don't want her to think I am being nosy or intrusive but my heart just breaks for her as I know how it feels to be a BS. I recieved a Christmas card from her this year signed with only her first name, no address but I think she still lives where she did last year.
I decided against sending her our usual card as the sentiment was not appropriate to her situation but don't know what to say or if I should even say anything. I guess I just want to let her know I care and support her in any way she would allow. What do you advise?
Our lives had gone down different paths as our children entered high school and we moved out into the country. I would still see her occasionally around town and we were invited to her childrens weddings during the time she was still married.
While I do not know the details of what happened and we had drifted apart to the point where I was not a confidant, I really feel torn as to whether I should reach out to her in some way, especially at the holidays as I imagine she is feeling rather blue. They were still together last Christmas.
I don't want her to think I am being nosy or intrusive but my heart just breaks for her as I know how it feels to be a BS. I recieved a Christmas card from her this year signed with only her first name, no address but I think she still lives where she did last year.
I decided against sending her our usual card as the sentiment was not appropriate to her situation but don't know what to say or if I should even say anything. I guess I just want to let her know I care and support her in any way she would allow. What do you advise?
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