I feel guilty & ungrateful, that I need/want more... A lot of people, i know, do not have it as good as me.
He is a great guy- smart, funny, kind, attractive. We've been together 4 years total, married for 2. We are both mid twenties.
He doesn't go out drinking all night, or refuse to help with chores. We have regular date nights, and share most of each other's interests and hobbies.
We both love each other and are pretty compatible EXCEPT for in the bedroom. While he's very affectionate with me (we are always holding hands, cuddling, hugging, etc) when it comes to sex he just does not seem all that interested.
He doesn't ever turn me down when I initiate, but he never initiates himself. I can go a month without initiating and he is just fine with it. When I do initiate, he does not seem that into it. He says he enjoys it, but displays no passion. He's finished in 5-10 minutes, and then he goes to sleep.
I've tried everything to get him more interested in it... even asked him what I can do to make it better for him and want it more... he says nothing he likes sex with me fine. I ask if he has any fantasies we can explore- he says no, he doesn't think about that things like that. I outright say i need more effort from him- he agrees and then doesn't put forth any.
I don't think he's having an affair, we both have passwords to each other's phone/email, and I know his work schedule well.
He doesn't watch porn at all, so he's not comparing me to anyone.
I don't think it's low t... he works out daily, gets morning wood, and doesn't have a problem getting it up when we do have sex.
I just... don't know what to do or think anymore.
He is a great guy- smart, funny, kind, attractive. We've been together 4 years total, married for 2. We are both mid twenties.
He doesn't go out drinking all night, or refuse to help with chores. We have regular date nights, and share most of each other's interests and hobbies.
We both love each other and are pretty compatible EXCEPT for in the bedroom. While he's very affectionate with me (we are always holding hands, cuddling, hugging, etc) when it comes to sex he just does not seem all that interested.
He doesn't ever turn me down when I initiate, but he never initiates himself. I can go a month without initiating and he is just fine with it. When I do initiate, he does not seem that into it. He says he enjoys it, but displays no passion. He's finished in 5-10 minutes, and then he goes to sleep.
I've tried everything to get him more interested in it... even asked him what I can do to make it better for him and want it more... he says nothing he likes sex with me fine. I ask if he has any fantasies we can explore- he says no, he doesn't think about that things like that. I outright say i need more effort from him- he agrees and then doesn't put forth any.
I don't think he's having an affair, we both have passwords to each other's phone/email, and I know his work schedule well.
He doesn't watch porn at all, so he's not comparing me to anyone.
I don't think it's low t... he works out daily, gets morning wood, and doesn't have a problem getting it up when we do have sex.
I just... don't know what to do or think anymore.
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