I guess this thread is about human relationships, rather than something specific to an SO. It includes not being able to have a girlfriend so I wrote it here. It may be long but detail is always important in help threads..
I can't fit anywhere as a 'core' member of a cliche, social group, club, chat group, band I play with ect... It's been hitting me hard lately that people just don't want to put the extra energy to befriend me or pull me closer to the group I am in. Whenever I go to a club with similar interests, volunteer at a show or attend a work social I am always that guy who is left out. I'l go next to a person and talk to them and when the convo is over they will forget about me the next minute to laugh with their friends. I will work or study with someone for months and they will still treat me as I knew them since yesterday. It's like God disabled a check-box in my life for me to advance relationships with people.
Before you make an assumption of who I am:
I don't consider myself a massive introvert who locks himself in the closet. I'm not ugly, have asbergers or spend 24/7 on WoW, homeschooled or raised in an isolated area,crippled ect... I just want to clarify before I start that I'm completely normal.
And I try.
I watch a lot of 'slice of life' shows like HIMYM or Golden Time and it looks like to some basic level everyone belongs in a group with some girls/guys who hang out together biweekly atleast. I know there is little realism in sitcoms but dam it makes me depressed/frustrated having to do the initiation to hang out with people or pursue girls who give me little attention back. Why doesn't someone put the energy towards me to make me join their circle. Just send me a text out of the blue inviting me to a cottage. I have a lot of work but I'll make time if someone does this for me. Never been on a trip or concert with a friend(s)...
So I guess this question comes down trying to analyze what's wrong with me. By seeing other people's situation on why they don't have what others don't. Yesterday it hit me like a bomb in my chest after checking my phone and fb inbox to see I made 96% of initiations and still don't have a bro or SO to talk to.
I guess the reason I am posting here is because I have had the final straw today. Two things happened. At my Uni I applied for an exec position for a small club and got it being the only one. On the Facebook group online I posted a message to talk about my new ideas enthusiastically saying who I was and 0 responded to the message or liked the status. And I was a part of every event for the club despite being the quiet one. And recently I joined a Skype group (after begging to get in) for my favorite forum and they treat me as a ghost. All my messages are filler for their convos, if I say hi or ask a question the convo will just keep going burying my non-responded message. And don't let me start talking about my situation with girls, I don't even have a friend who is a girl.... I have two close friends I guess only. I used to see a psychologist who arranged a meetup for teens and I befriended them since. But it's petty. If you read this long, be thankful there is a room or pla ce somewhere where you'll enter with everyone greeting you with open arms or saying 'sup, we were waiting for you to start rehearing... Some people have it difficult in things you find easy...
Put the internet to work for you.
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