I think I have to admit it, I'm LD. I am quite satisfied with sex with my GF every other week. When we make love it is mind-blowing and satisfies that deep longing, but I tend to stay satisfied with it for quite a while. It's not like having it twice as often would bring any additional fulfillment. I do need physical touch and quality time much more frequently than sex. Often we will find time for it more frequently, even went two days in a row last week, and it was good, but certainly not necessary. My GF is OK with less frequent lovemaking but I think for her two weeks is too long, but generally I am usually way too depleted to initiate all that often. If she initiates I am keen to please, but I often lack any kind of stamina (I don't mean PE, but just lose interest and after a short time will just turn to cuddling and falling asleep).
From what I've read on here, according to all you other guys, this is not normal for a healthy man in a healthy relationship.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm perpetually horny, and lust for women all the time, including my GF, I'm just not up to the performance all that often, for some reason the reward isn't incentive enough for the effort. When we're apart during the week, or in the midst of her shifts, I will sometimes take care of myself daily or multiple times, or else sometimes abstain for a long while, no rhyme or reason to it.
I've been this way my entire life, was not really good at getting sex in my single years, when in relationships largely refrained from intercourse for fear of unwanted pregnancy, also perhaps a little bit of protestant guilt (though I've tried shedding any of those damaging religious upbringings). Bringing this up in counselling isn't something I've not really delved into.
If I'd had attractive women throwing themselves at me I would probably be in an entirely different situation, but i just don't think that would have ever been my style. I have passion, but it's not burning intense, it's deeper and more tantric. When I read about other LD guys, I wonder how many just have a different style of making love than what the typical man's man has with women?
I wonder how alone I am in my ways?
From what I've read on here, according to all you other guys, this is not normal for a healthy man in a healthy relationship.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm perpetually horny, and lust for women all the time, including my GF, I'm just not up to the performance all that often, for some reason the reward isn't incentive enough for the effort. When we're apart during the week, or in the midst of her shifts, I will sometimes take care of myself daily or multiple times, or else sometimes abstain for a long while, no rhyme or reason to it.
I've been this way my entire life, was not really good at getting sex in my single years, when in relationships largely refrained from intercourse for fear of unwanted pregnancy, also perhaps a little bit of protestant guilt (though I've tried shedding any of those damaging religious upbringings). Bringing this up in counselling isn't something I've not really delved into.
If I'd had attractive women throwing themselves at me I would probably be in an entirely different situation, but i just don't think that would have ever been my style. I have passion, but it's not burning intense, it's deeper and more tantric. When I read about other LD guys, I wonder how many just have a different style of making love than what the typical man's man has with women?
I wonder how alone I am in my ways?
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