My GF and I have been together for 4 years now. We are both divorced, mine a clean break, hers not so much. She has two great girls that I do adore as if they were my own. Thier father is a violently disturbed drug addict and survives by selling drugs. Him and his mother have been manipulative towards my GF, using the kids as emotional pawns.
Thats the short of it. My GF has little self esteem, she lets these people bully her around and intrude into our life, with harassing phone calls and text messaging.
After the druggy daddy neglected the girls, causing injury and hospital visits, I got involved. I am doing my damdest to get her to put her foot down and stop thiss madness so she and the girls can have a safe and sane life. But she is always worried that the girls will hate her for taking thier father and grandmother from the picture.
I have been tolerating this frustration for years now. She is either scared or apathetic to do anything about his. He is a deadbeat and does not care for his kids. He does not have a job and lives in a drug dealers house for free. He is spiteful, nasty and manipulating to my GF and him and his mother are constantly using the childrens emotions against her.
I finally paid for an attorney for her to help her, hoping this was the push that she needs, but the harsh reality is that she is not on the same page as me. I want her to stand up for herself and get this loser from her life so we can move on and live happy. She does nto do anything unless I am constantly reminding her or instructing her and I hate that. She tells me that she has thyroid problems and needs me to help her, but then she wont even hep herself.
I am between a rock and a hard place. I love her, but I want off this crazy ride. I feel for her, but am sick of the constant barrage of drama. It is affecting my job and my health. I have told her a few times how I feel, she just sits there and cries.
She has let down her mother and father, who also tried to help her and pleaded with her to stop allowing her ex and his mother ruin her life. I promised her mother on her death bed that I would be there by her daughters side. Now I feel like a turd for wanting to get out of this. I cannot fight her battles for her is we are not fighting together. I told my GF this: "I keep fighting your dragons and you keep letting them back into our castle!"
Her life was sh*t before we met. He left her with the kids and the bills. We have a happy nice home now. I dont know how to live with myself if I let her go. I know she will fall into despair. I have set a timeline for myself and then I know it's time for me to go. I want this to work, but ....
I dont know what to do....sorry for long rant.
Thats the short of it. My GF has little self esteem, she lets these people bully her around and intrude into our life, with harassing phone calls and text messaging.
After the druggy daddy neglected the girls, causing injury and hospital visits, I got involved. I am doing my damdest to get her to put her foot down and stop thiss madness so she and the girls can have a safe and sane life. But she is always worried that the girls will hate her for taking thier father and grandmother from the picture.
I have been tolerating this frustration for years now. She is either scared or apathetic to do anything about his. He is a deadbeat and does not care for his kids. He does not have a job and lives in a drug dealers house for free. He is spiteful, nasty and manipulating to my GF and him and his mother are constantly using the childrens emotions against her.
I finally paid for an attorney for her to help her, hoping this was the push that she needs, but the harsh reality is that she is not on the same page as me. I want her to stand up for herself and get this loser from her life so we can move on and live happy. She does nto do anything unless I am constantly reminding her or instructing her and I hate that. She tells me that she has thyroid problems and needs me to help her, but then she wont even hep herself.
I am between a rock and a hard place. I love her, but I want off this crazy ride. I feel for her, but am sick of the constant barrage of drama. It is affecting my job and my health. I have told her a few times how I feel, she just sits there and cries.
She has let down her mother and father, who also tried to help her and pleaded with her to stop allowing her ex and his mother ruin her life. I promised her mother on her death bed that I would be there by her daughters side. Now I feel like a turd for wanting to get out of this. I cannot fight her battles for her is we are not fighting together. I told my GF this: "I keep fighting your dragons and you keep letting them back into our castle!"
Her life was sh*t before we met. He left her with the kids and the bills. We have a happy nice home now. I dont know how to live with myself if I let her go. I know she will fall into despair. I have set a timeline for myself and then I know it's time for me to go. I want this to work, but ....
I dont know what to do....sorry for long rant.
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