I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend since I was 16. We're now 24 and I've gone on to get a PhD and a professional job whilst he dropped out of Uni and seems content to work in a low skill, low pay job for the rest of his life. My interests and tastes have changed, and sometimes I wonder whilst we're together. He's also put on a significant amount of weight (he now weighs 20 stone!) and without wanting to seem shallow, I don't find him particularly attractive anymore. The long and short of it is, I love him (he's kind, trustworthy, always there for me and does make me laugh) but I feel our relationship is more like a friendship (there's no romance or sexual attraction there at all). He's now talking marriage and romance and I'm scared about being trapped in this relationship for the rest of my life. But how can I 'dump' him now after he's stuck with me through the PhD and even moved to another country with me briefly? What kind of bitch would that make me ?
Recently I met a guy through work who I feel strongly attracted to. He's smart, funny, attractive and interesting and we have a lot in common. He also seems like he flits between women a lot, I'm not sure whether I could trust him. But the point is, this attraction makes me realize what I'm missing. I'm 24 and feel like a 40 year old trapped in a loveless marriage. Should I just leave him? I'm terrified of being single. My boyfriend's the only one that's ever shown any interest in me romantically - who am I to decide the one person that's ever been attracted to me isn't good enough? I'm worried about being 24 and single! Plus I worry that other men can't be trusted.
So, this has been a bit of a rant but I'd really appreciate any advice. Should I just stick with the sweet, kind guy who loves me or go it alone in the hope that someone someday might actually like me?
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