Did anyone else take the disastrous route of the poorly planned, knee-jerk confrontation? Tell your story here!
I totally dropped the ball on mine. I remember it was nighttime, wife is putting daughter to bed, and I check her phone on a whim. It was like a psychic voice saying "CHECK HER PHONE DUDE! DO IT NOW!"
So there's texts with some dude, pretty heavy, inappropriate stuff. What do I do? I take her phone out and leave it right on the table, with that message opened up, to see if she'll say anything. She grabs her phone when she comes up and slyly deletes the texts and doesn't say anything.
Next day, I get on facebook and tell this guys wife. Figure I'll go straight to kickin a hornets nest.
I did not realize at the time they were all in cahoots. Guys Wife calls him at work (him and wife were co-workers) and next thing I know she's texting me saying we need to talk. Of course she denies anything happened, says they've been trying to get her into a 3way and while she never did anything with them she enjoyed the flirting.
Finally I get her to admit to sleeping with some random dude a few months before. Even finding other texts from another dude later (she didn't empty her trash folder on her texts) and she still denied anything happened with this other dude.
Took me a good six months of pestering and badgering to get any level of truth out of her.
If I could do it again, I'd have never said anything, just kept a close eye on her. And every time we watched TV I'd put on some show that involved cheating, just to raise her anxiety levels. And gone for all the spy gear. Then I'd have confronted her with all kinds of evidence.
I did use mobile spy for a while, but it was ultimately pointless as it was during one her "good periods" i think...she'd just been caught and I'm pretty sure she was done with it. Plus Mobilespy tends to suck because you don't get the longer text messages, and those are the juicy ones.
What's your story?
I totally dropped the ball on mine. I remember it was nighttime, wife is putting daughter to bed, and I check her phone on a whim. It was like a psychic voice saying "CHECK HER PHONE DUDE! DO IT NOW!"
So there's texts with some dude, pretty heavy, inappropriate stuff. What do I do? I take her phone out and leave it right on the table, with that message opened up, to see if she'll say anything. She grabs her phone when she comes up and slyly deletes the texts and doesn't say anything.
Next day, I get on facebook and tell this guys wife. Figure I'll go straight to kickin a hornets nest.
I did not realize at the time they were all in cahoots. Guys Wife calls him at work (him and wife were co-workers) and next thing I know she's texting me saying we need to talk. Of course she denies anything happened, says they've been trying to get her into a 3way and while she never did anything with them she enjoyed the flirting.
Finally I get her to admit to sleeping with some random dude a few months before. Even finding other texts from another dude later (she didn't empty her trash folder on her texts) and she still denied anything happened with this other dude.
Took me a good six months of pestering and badgering to get any level of truth out of her.
If I could do it again, I'd have never said anything, just kept a close eye on her. And every time we watched TV I'd put on some show that involved cheating, just to raise her anxiety levels. And gone for all the spy gear. Then I'd have confronted her with all kinds of evidence.
I did use mobile spy for a while, but it was ultimately pointless as it was during one her "good periods" i think...she'd just been caught and I'm pretty sure she was done with it. Plus Mobilespy tends to suck because you don't get the longer text messages, and those are the juicy ones.
What's your story?
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