I am just wondering what I should expect to get out of individual counseling. I've been to 2 sessions so far and I feel like it is mostly a time for me to vent and have those feelings validated. This is nice, but I'm not sure it's really worth the time and money.
A brief background on my situation... I have been having problems in marriage for several years (married 11 years). Basically living as a single mom with a husband who is stressed because he is consumed with work (a very long commute, and a lot of travel out of town) and when home often here in a physical sense only. While I know his work situation doesn't make things easy, many of the the problems I am about to present were there prior to the work situation he is in now. And looking back I was even blind to some of it while dating. He is a very negative person, the "grass is always greener..." type. He is quick to get mad, especially at the kids. The littlest things annoy him. Sometimes will call the kids hurtful names. Sometimes throws temper tantrums when things don't go his way. It's not as bad as some people's stories that I have read on here, but it is enough to suck the fun or happiness out of many days... and has even ruined vacations and special events.
He agreed that his anger is a problem and has started counseling (one session so far). He said that I should go to my own counseling too, because I can be cold and distant sometimes- I told him it's only to avoid his constant negativity and fun-sucking attitude, but I agreed to go.
So should I expect more than a venting session from my counseling? I figure at some point we will do counseling together too.
A brief background on my situation... I have been having problems in marriage for several years (married 11 years). Basically living as a single mom with a husband who is stressed because he is consumed with work (a very long commute, and a lot of travel out of town) and when home often here in a physical sense only. While I know his work situation doesn't make things easy, many of the the problems I am about to present were there prior to the work situation he is in now. And looking back I was even blind to some of it while dating. He is a very negative person, the "grass is always greener..." type. He is quick to get mad, especially at the kids. The littlest things annoy him. Sometimes will call the kids hurtful names. Sometimes throws temper tantrums when things don't go his way. It's not as bad as some people's stories that I have read on here, but it is enough to suck the fun or happiness out of many days... and has even ruined vacations and special events.
He agreed that his anger is a problem and has started counseling (one session so far). He said that I should go to my own counseling too, because I can be cold and distant sometimes- I told him it's only to avoid his constant negativity and fun-sucking attitude, but I agreed to go.
So should I expect more than a venting session from my counseling? I figure at some point we will do counseling together too.
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