Hi all,
I just stumbled across this website today while searching the net for things to help me with my relationship with my husband. We have been married for over 8 years, together over 10.
When we'd been married for about a year, I had what I now see was an EA with a friend of mine, nothing physical ever happened, but I entertained thoughts of leaving my husband. Not necessarily FOR the friend, but more it just showed me that I was dissatisified in my marriage. Being young, and also with a husband with a very strong personality, I don't think I handled the situation well, and so over the years I have continued on and off to struggle with my feelings of dissatisfaction and my inability to communicate effectively with my husband.
nearly 2 years ago now, I had another EA that also involved sexting etc and was much more serious. I had been miserable and felt unappreciated in my marriage for a really long time, and didn't feel as though it was getting any better, so I took the cowards way out, and ended up seeking solace in the attention of another man. This has easily been the worst decision I have ever made.
My husband and I have been flailing around in the waters of our marriage ever since, he is obviously finding it hard to trust me, and obviously anger flairs up every so often. I try to do what I can for him, but have to say that I also feel that my needs aren't getting met. I understand that what I did was very, very, very wrong and hurtful, and if I could take it back, I would, but I still think there were other issues in our marriage that needed working on as well.
As I said, I have always struggled to communicate my needs effectively to my husband, and now even more so, as if I ever ask for something or want something to change, I get the line about me being the one who cheated, so I don't get to ask for ...
I would like to try MC as a way to help me communicate more effectively, but he won't go. I just don't think we are getting anywhere by ourselves. I am seriously starting to doubt my decision to stay and work on our marriage for the benefit of our son, and am thinking that what we have might not be fixable.
But that thought is really, really scary for me, I want to make sure we have tried everything possible to save our marriage. I need to find something to help us communicate effectively, anything to help us trust each other.
I spent a fair bit of time reading up on the marriage builders website last year, and thought that that might be a great way to start our 'new' relationship, but when I showed hubby, he wasn't really interested in that either.
I just stumbled across this website today while searching the net for things to help me with my relationship with my husband. We have been married for over 8 years, together over 10.
When we'd been married for about a year, I had what I now see was an EA with a friend of mine, nothing physical ever happened, but I entertained thoughts of leaving my husband. Not necessarily FOR the friend, but more it just showed me that I was dissatisified in my marriage. Being young, and also with a husband with a very strong personality, I don't think I handled the situation well, and so over the years I have continued on and off to struggle with my feelings of dissatisfaction and my inability to communicate effectively with my husband.
nearly 2 years ago now, I had another EA that also involved sexting etc and was much more serious. I had been miserable and felt unappreciated in my marriage for a really long time, and didn't feel as though it was getting any better, so I took the cowards way out, and ended up seeking solace in the attention of another man. This has easily been the worst decision I have ever made.
My husband and I have been flailing around in the waters of our marriage ever since, he is obviously finding it hard to trust me, and obviously anger flairs up every so often. I try to do what I can for him, but have to say that I also feel that my needs aren't getting met. I understand that what I did was very, very, very wrong and hurtful, and if I could take it back, I would, but I still think there were other issues in our marriage that needed working on as well.
As I said, I have always struggled to communicate my needs effectively to my husband, and now even more so, as if I ever ask for something or want something to change, I get the line about me being the one who cheated, so I don't get to ask for ...
I would like to try MC as a way to help me communicate more effectively, but he won't go. I just don't think we are getting anywhere by ourselves. I am seriously starting to doubt my decision to stay and work on our marriage for the benefit of our son, and am thinking that what we have might not be fixable.
But that thought is really, really scary for me, I want to make sure we have tried everything possible to save our marriage. I need to find something to help us communicate effectively, anything to help us trust each other.
I spent a fair bit of time reading up on the marriage builders website last year, and thought that that might be a great way to start our 'new' relationship, but when I showed hubby, he wasn't really interested in that either.
Put the internet to work for you.
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