My husband & I have been together 10 yrs, married for 2 yrs. My husband is an alcoholic, recently diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder. The friend that wants me to leave him is a girl I met at work a few months ago. We seemed to have a little in common & started going to lunch together, I invited her to my house, introduced her to my family etc.
Well my husband I have had our share of problems - Mostly related to his drinking. I began to feel comfortable confiding in her about my marital issues. I then noticed that she told me a couple of things about my husband that didn't make sense. Both of the things kind of implied that my husband was making an attempt to cheat on me.
The first instance was about 2 weeks after I met her, she insinuated that my husband & sister-in-law were acting inappropriately towards each other, as in maybe something sexually inappropriate was going on. Now granted, at the time she did not realize this was my sister-in-law and my brother-in-law was sitting right there at the time she made the assumption that there was some inappropriate behavior.
I didn't make much of it because it made no sense, they don't live near us & we seldom see them (brother-in-law & sister-in-law) not to mention that my friend whom I had only known 2-3 weeks was only in there presence 5-10 minutes & my brother-in-law was right there...I pretty much just blew it off, figuring she didn't realize that was my husband's brother and that was his brother's wife.
I then started to notice how she began to talk bad about my husband and eventually told me she did not like him, I was better than that & that she could not continue to feel sorry for me if I stayed with him. Of course at this point, I took a step back (mentally, not a step back from the friendship). I had only known her at this point 3 months, but I been with my husband 10 yrs. Granted he has his problems & I have endured a lot of heartache, I thought it inappropriate for her to be practically demanding I leave my husband and making the judgment calls against him she was.
So I realized I had to accept responsibility for confiding in her about my marital issues & quit talking to her about my husband. Then she started fishing, wondering how things were going. I kept my answers short & never elaborated. I would say things like "he's fine" or "we're doing better" and leave it at that.
I think it's also worth mentioning that she is married to a man currently serving 30 years in prison who is eligible to be released in a yr. She became acquainted with him as pen-pals, started visiting him & eventually married him. I think she is somewhat of a lonely person and I a part of me wondered if maybe she wanted to see me seperated from my husband so I could spend more time hanging out with her. She even offered to introduce me to a guy who is in prison with her husband.
Sorry so long but I really wanted to vent and get input from people here on what their take is on this situation, opioins...any feedback is appreciated. Thanks for reading.
Well my husband I have had our share of problems - Mostly related to his drinking. I began to feel comfortable confiding in her about my marital issues. I then noticed that she told me a couple of things about my husband that didn't make sense. Both of the things kind of implied that my husband was making an attempt to cheat on me.
The first instance was about 2 weeks after I met her, she insinuated that my husband & sister-in-law were acting inappropriately towards each other, as in maybe something sexually inappropriate was going on. Now granted, at the time she did not realize this was my sister-in-law and my brother-in-law was sitting right there at the time she made the assumption that there was some inappropriate behavior.
I didn't make much of it because it made no sense, they don't live near us & we seldom see them (brother-in-law & sister-in-law) not to mention that my friend whom I had only known 2-3 weeks was only in there presence 5-10 minutes & my brother-in-law was right there...I pretty much just blew it off, figuring she didn't realize that was my husband's brother and that was his brother's wife.
I then started to notice how she began to talk bad about my husband and eventually told me she did not like him, I was better than that & that she could not continue to feel sorry for me if I stayed with him. Of course at this point, I took a step back (mentally, not a step back from the friendship). I had only known her at this point 3 months, but I been with my husband 10 yrs. Granted he has his problems & I have endured a lot of heartache, I thought it inappropriate for her to be practically demanding I leave my husband and making the judgment calls against him she was.
So I realized I had to accept responsibility for confiding in her about my marital issues & quit talking to her about my husband. Then she started fishing, wondering how things were going. I kept my answers short & never elaborated. I would say things like "he's fine" or "we're doing better" and leave it at that.
I think it's also worth mentioning that she is married to a man currently serving 30 years in prison who is eligible to be released in a yr. She became acquainted with him as pen-pals, started visiting him & eventually married him. I think she is somewhat of a lonely person and I a part of me wondered if maybe she wanted to see me seperated from my husband so I could spend more time hanging out with her. She even offered to introduce me to a guy who is in prison with her husband.
Sorry so long but I really wanted to vent and get input from people here on what their take is on this situation, opioins...any feedback is appreciated. Thanks for reading.
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