So on another thread, Dvls was telling us his view that men should not compliment women (and Dvls can make this more clear from his own POV if he wants to, as I'm not sure what all he meant).
But for the most part, women love compliments, or that has been my experience.
Women tend to compliment each other a lot, too.
I think a compliment that has a covert contract attached to it is what Dvls is saying is bad, and I'd agree. If you are complimenting someone to try to gain their favor or for any other reason than simply noting something complimentary and saying it, I think women resent it.
Like I have a gf who really wants constant praise and compliments, and she also gives constant praise and compliments...but when you get one from her you know this is just "her thing" and the compliments may or may not be all that real. She really just wants you to shower her with compliments so you aren't sure if she means it when she compliments you.
But most of my female friends really like getting sincere compliments and are able to give sincere ones.
Your thoughts?
But for the most part, women love compliments, or that has been my experience.
Women tend to compliment each other a lot, too.
I think a compliment that has a covert contract attached to it is what Dvls is saying is bad, and I'd agree. If you are complimenting someone to try to gain their favor or for any other reason than simply noting something complimentary and saying it, I think women resent it.
Like I have a gf who really wants constant praise and compliments, and she also gives constant praise and compliments...but when you get one from her you know this is just "her thing" and the compliments may or may not be all that real. She really just wants you to shower her with compliments so you aren't sure if she means it when she compliments you.
But most of my female friends really like getting sincere compliments and are able to give sincere ones.
Your thoughts?
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