Long story short, me and my ex bf broke up a year ago. He broke up with me. but we have been friends since. We was good friends before we got together and was together for 2 years.
We spoke every now and then and occasionally saw each other, but when my ex got a new gf 2 months after us. i decided to stop talking to him, to which he noticed and still tried contacting me.
After not speaking to him for a few months and us having the no contact rule and me finally getting myself together and happy with everything.
i did start to chat to him again to which we contacted once a month. I have moved on from him, but for some reason i also miss apart of us. if this makes sense. I don't know if its because of him being my first serious boyfriend. we started talking more to each other around christmas time till around now. but he started acting differently towards me since new years. As in like he had a sudden realisation on things. and kept being sorry for how he treated me towards the end of our relationship and saying things like 'You was honestly a nice person' and that the past few months that he's been through haven't been great for him. I saw him friday night after work and i stayed the night at his. But We spoke a lot when i stayed around and he admitted a lot to me like 'he wished he appreciated me more and how i treated him' and that our relationship wasn't even bad, yet he admitted he was too selfish to see who i was and that university life and friends took over him. He said he regrets getting into a relationship with someone like her and who treats him poorly and who has cheated on him and is controlling.
He also acted in a way as to when we started seeing each other and always making me drinks and doing things for me, hugging me and tickling me etc..I won't lie it felt really odd, but he said he is comfortable at the moment with me.The things i've become concerned with is that he said he thinks he's depressed. and throughout the whole time i spent with him when i stayed over i could tell something wasn't right. He was always staring out into space and wanting to always have a nap. but the strangle thing is, is he also would constantly stare at me when i wasn't looking at him, which i could see he was, but when i look he would do a giggle and a grin then look away. I really want to know what i can do? I am worried about him but i'm also not wanting to bug and force him to speak or do things.
I told him when i stayed 'I'm here for you if needed and that if you ever need a chat call me' but since i stayed he's been really quite. he replies but its slower then normal and Normally he's on fb every hour or so just like everyone on their phone. but he hasn't been on there much since.
He message me this morning as i asked him yesterday night if he was ok and if he wanted to go out for a drink tomorrow(today) and he said 'i haven't even gotten out of bed yet, plus i don't feel great' when i was 1.45pm.
I wanted to write him a message staying how I'm conceded and that i want him to sort himself out, as in, not staying in bed all day and change the things that trouble him at the moment. and just generally saying i'm there for him. but since i stayed i won't lie i've messaged every evening asking if he's ok. and a couple he hasn't replied too.
Is there anything i can do?
Leave him to talk?
or send my message i wrote out to him?
We spoke every now and then and occasionally saw each other, but when my ex got a new gf 2 months after us. i decided to stop talking to him, to which he noticed and still tried contacting me.
After not speaking to him for a few months and us having the no contact rule and me finally getting myself together and happy with everything.
i did start to chat to him again to which we contacted once a month. I have moved on from him, but for some reason i also miss apart of us. if this makes sense. I don't know if its because of him being my first serious boyfriend. we started talking more to each other around christmas time till around now. but he started acting differently towards me since new years. As in like he had a sudden realisation on things. and kept being sorry for how he treated me towards the end of our relationship and saying things like 'You was honestly a nice person' and that the past few months that he's been through haven't been great for him. I saw him friday night after work and i stayed the night at his. But We spoke a lot when i stayed around and he admitted a lot to me like 'he wished he appreciated me more and how i treated him' and that our relationship wasn't even bad, yet he admitted he was too selfish to see who i was and that university life and friends took over him. He said he regrets getting into a relationship with someone like her and who treats him poorly and who has cheated on him and is controlling.
He also acted in a way as to when we started seeing each other and always making me drinks and doing things for me, hugging me and tickling me etc..I won't lie it felt really odd, but he said he is comfortable at the moment with me.The things i've become concerned with is that he said he thinks he's depressed. and throughout the whole time i spent with him when i stayed over i could tell something wasn't right. He was always staring out into space and wanting to always have a nap. but the strangle thing is, is he also would constantly stare at me when i wasn't looking at him, which i could see he was, but when i look he would do a giggle and a grin then look away. I really want to know what i can do? I am worried about him but i'm also not wanting to bug and force him to speak or do things.
I told him when i stayed 'I'm here for you if needed and that if you ever need a chat call me' but since i stayed he's been really quite. he replies but its slower then normal and Normally he's on fb every hour or so just like everyone on their phone. but he hasn't been on there much since.
He message me this morning as i asked him yesterday night if he was ok and if he wanted to go out for a drink tomorrow(today) and he said 'i haven't even gotten out of bed yet, plus i don't feel great' when i was 1.45pm.
I wanted to write him a message staying how I'm conceded and that i want him to sort himself out, as in, not staying in bed all day and change the things that trouble him at the moment. and just generally saying i'm there for him. but since i stayed i won't lie i've messaged every evening asking if he's ok. and a couple he hasn't replied too.
Is there anything i can do?
Leave him to talk?
or send my message i wrote out to him?
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