My wife and I have been having some severe problems in our marriage and divorce has come up, mostly from her. I have been trying to convince her to continue working on things. One of the main issues we have is that my current job has us about 6 hours from all of our family. We have lived there since we have been married and it really didn't become a huge issue until we had kids. We have two year old twin daughters and my wife stays home with them. She feels that she has no support with them. I help a lot when I am home but she feels pretty isolated during the days. This is at the root cause of a lot of our problems and has created a situation that is very tense and uncomfortable. I am working on trying to get a job closer to family and if I could I would pick up and move tomorrow, however I am under contract with my current employer for another three months and I don't have a new job lined up yet.
I have been thinking about a separation where my wife takes the kids back and stays with her parents for the next couple of months (they are open to doing this) while I work on finishing my job overs here and finding a new one there. It would be hell being away from my daughters but the situation in our home has become so tense and uncomfortable that sometimes I feel we are doing more harm than good by living under the same roof right now. My hope would be that we are both able to take a step back, breath and in a couple months start over (with therapy) in a place where we have much more support and help. My wife has also made some friends that are not very healthy people to be around where we currently are at and getting them out of the picture would only help.
Like I said I hate the thought of going an extended time without seeing my girls but there is only so long you can continue to come home to a place where your wife acts like she wants nothing to do with you. My biggest fear is that she would just use I'd as a stepping stone to divorce and I a couple months when I am getting ready to move back she would tell me I need to find somewhere on my own and that she is done.
I have not approached my wife about this yet, I was hoping to get some input. At this point I am just grasping for anything that I think could work.
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I have been thinking about a separation where my wife takes the kids back and stays with her parents for the next couple of months (they are open to doing this) while I work on finishing my job overs here and finding a new one there. It would be hell being away from my daughters but the situation in our home has become so tense and uncomfortable that sometimes I feel we are doing more harm than good by living under the same roof right now. My hope would be that we are both able to take a step back, breath and in a couple months start over (with therapy) in a place where we have much more support and help. My wife has also made some friends that are not very healthy people to be around where we currently are at and getting them out of the picture would only help.
Like I said I hate the thought of going an extended time without seeing my girls but there is only so long you can continue to come home to a place where your wife acts like she wants nothing to do with you. My biggest fear is that she would just use I'd as a stepping stone to divorce and I a couple months when I am getting ready to move back she would tell me I need to find somewhere on my own and that she is done.
I have not approached my wife about this yet, I was hoping to get some input. At this point I am just grasping for anything that I think could work.
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