Hi everyone, I need some advice and really I guess just some direction and input as well. Try to make this short as possible, thanks for any advice given.
I've been with this guy for 2 years now and of course at first it was all wonderful and all that. I was in love with him and pretty much after the first 6 months he started drinking heavily, being disrespectful, etc. Well we broke up and got back together several times. One of those times I was unemployed with no where to go and he pretty much threw me out without any place to go. He has a child with another woman and at the time I think he was trying to work things out with her, although he never stated that to me.
Anyhow I moved on dated different people and kinda fell out of love with him I guess. After him being the way he was to me I guess I had just had enough.
I eventually got back on my feet found a job and a place to live that was nice I thought. I was talking to someone else as well but this other guy wasn't interested in having a full time girlfriend I don't think.
Well one night my ex comes knocking on my door dragging his dog and little girl to my house very unexpectedly and I felt kind of sorry for him so I let him talk about everything he wanted to talk about and then he acted like we were back together. I had missed him but I did not want to get back together with him well me being kind of shy and not very good at speaking my mind to people I just kind of let him back in, even though I was fairly happy by myself and didn't want a steady relationship somehow I ended up back in the same mess again!
Well now I am expecting a child with this man and I've never been so scared in my life. He is not the father I wanted for my child nor the husband I wanted for myself. I cant seem to be happy about even having a child because I feel like its just going to be miserable having him as the so called head of the household when I cant even take him serious. I was raised old fashioned and now I am faced to raise a child with someone that is hardly ever around, already has a child with someone else, whom this other woman is very rude to me and my family not to mention she has stolen lots of my things.
Needless to say I don't know what to do. I feel like I owe it to my child to at least give him a home like what I had growing up, but at the same time I want to run as far away from this man as possible. When he has his other child, he doesn't really play with her or do anything with her she would like to do. He takes her fishing or scares her mostly it seems like.
He also rarely asks me to keep her, he just leaves to go fishing and I wake up and shes there, regardless of the fact that I might have something going on that day, it's like he doesn't even use his brain. I am worried my lil boy is going to turn out like him or even look like him! He even annoys me with him just being around. It's rare that we have a conversation. I don't think anyone knows how really strange he is. He is a war veteran and maybe he has ptsd I don't know. I just know he is uncomfortable to even be around.
Not to mention he does nothing to help around the house. He works and when he's not working he fishes all day. We have no relationship as far as I can tell other then roommates and I don't want that. Neither has he helped at all getting the nursery ready or just extra help because it's harder on me physically doing all the housework being pregnant. It's really disheartening to me to be treated like this.
I have prayed and only hope that things might get better.
I've been with this guy for 2 years now and of course at first it was all wonderful and all that. I was in love with him and pretty much after the first 6 months he started drinking heavily, being disrespectful, etc. Well we broke up and got back together several times. One of those times I was unemployed with no where to go and he pretty much threw me out without any place to go. He has a child with another woman and at the time I think he was trying to work things out with her, although he never stated that to me.
Anyhow I moved on dated different people and kinda fell out of love with him I guess. After him being the way he was to me I guess I had just had enough.
I eventually got back on my feet found a job and a place to live that was nice I thought. I was talking to someone else as well but this other guy wasn't interested in having a full time girlfriend I don't think.
Well one night my ex comes knocking on my door dragging his dog and little girl to my house very unexpectedly and I felt kind of sorry for him so I let him talk about everything he wanted to talk about and then he acted like we were back together. I had missed him but I did not want to get back together with him well me being kind of shy and not very good at speaking my mind to people I just kind of let him back in, even though I was fairly happy by myself and didn't want a steady relationship somehow I ended up back in the same mess again!
Well now I am expecting a child with this man and I've never been so scared in my life. He is not the father I wanted for my child nor the husband I wanted for myself. I cant seem to be happy about even having a child because I feel like its just going to be miserable having him as the so called head of the household when I cant even take him serious. I was raised old fashioned and now I am faced to raise a child with someone that is hardly ever around, already has a child with someone else, whom this other woman is very rude to me and my family not to mention she has stolen lots of my things.
Needless to say I don't know what to do. I feel like I owe it to my child to at least give him a home like what I had growing up, but at the same time I want to run as far away from this man as possible. When he has his other child, he doesn't really play with her or do anything with her she would like to do. He takes her fishing or scares her mostly it seems like.
He also rarely asks me to keep her, he just leaves to go fishing and I wake up and shes there, regardless of the fact that I might have something going on that day, it's like he doesn't even use his brain. I am worried my lil boy is going to turn out like him or even look like him! He even annoys me with him just being around. It's rare that we have a conversation. I don't think anyone knows how really strange he is. He is a war veteran and maybe he has ptsd I don't know. I just know he is uncomfortable to even be around.
Not to mention he does nothing to help around the house. He works and when he's not working he fishes all day. We have no relationship as far as I can tell other then roommates and I don't want that. Neither has he helped at all getting the nursery ready or just extra help because it's harder on me physically doing all the housework being pregnant. It's really disheartening to me to be treated like this.
I have prayed and only hope that things might get better.
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