Perhaps this is the wrong place to post this since most here are already dealing with infidelity, but for those who haven't cheated yet and who someday are faced with this choice, here's what you should know.
One way or another affairs are found out. You think you might be able to get away with it. You think you're clever and sly. You think an affair will be fun and you'll be so full of yourself as you cheat on your spouse. You're so awesome getting away with it, right? You must be really something.
Once you are found out, and trust me you will be found out, there's a very good chance that your marriage will end. If that's what you want, why not be honest and just ask for a divorce? Get out of your marriage and then you can have all the partners you want. Would it not be as much fun without the thrill of being a backstabber? Or maybe it's that you don't want a divorce. If you don't want a divorce, why would you even consider cheating on someone you supposedly want to stay married to? You either love them or you don't and cheating on them screams that you do not.
If you want to be married to the person who you are going to cheat on, know this: If they don't leave you immediately, they will try to find a way out. Infidelity never makes a marriage stronger. You can try to work it out, beg to be forgiven, say it was a mistake, etc. What your betrayed spouse will know is that you are capable of being a liar, a cheater, a backstabber, and they'll know exactly how little you thought of them. They will never think the same of you. You will lose their love. You will lose their respect. Your marriage will never be the same. The best you can hope for is that they tolerate you. They will know your "mistake" was not a mistake at all, but a choice you chose to make. They will see you exactly for what you are. Their feelings for you will change dramatically. You will be nothing more to them than a person who trashed it all to have sex with someone else. You will have broken the heart of someone you said you loved. They will not belie ve a word you say ever again. Trust will be gone. Respect will be gone. You will be a cheater. Nothing more. Most likely they will leave you. Your marriage as you knew it will be over either way. Like you care.
One way or another affairs are found out. You think you might be able to get away with it. You think you're clever and sly. You think an affair will be fun and you'll be so full of yourself as you cheat on your spouse. You're so awesome getting away with it, right? You must be really something.
Once you are found out, and trust me you will be found out, there's a very good chance that your marriage will end. If that's what you want, why not be honest and just ask for a divorce? Get out of your marriage and then you can have all the partners you want. Would it not be as much fun without the thrill of being a backstabber? Or maybe it's that you don't want a divorce. If you don't want a divorce, why would you even consider cheating on someone you supposedly want to stay married to? You either love them or you don't and cheating on them screams that you do not.
If you want to be married to the person who you are going to cheat on, know this: If they don't leave you immediately, they will try to find a way out. Infidelity never makes a marriage stronger. You can try to work it out, beg to be forgiven, say it was a mistake, etc. What your betrayed spouse will know is that you are capable of being a liar, a cheater, a backstabber, and they'll know exactly how little you thought of them. They will never think the same of you. You will lose their love. You will lose their respect. Your marriage will never be the same. The best you can hope for is that they tolerate you. They will know your "mistake" was not a mistake at all, but a choice you chose to make. They will see you exactly for what you are. Their feelings for you will change dramatically. You will be nothing more to them than a person who trashed it all to have sex with someone else. You will have broken the heart of someone you said you loved. They will not belie ve a word you say ever again. Trust will be gone. Respect will be gone. You will be a cheater. Nothing more. Most likely they will leave you. Your marriage as you knew it will be over either way. Like you care.
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