So I had an individual session with the MC yesterday. She has said it before but things it would be a good idea for us to separate for a bit. She feels that most of the responses we have to each other are "emotionally charged" b/c we are always around one another, that it is harder for me to deal with my anger over the affair. She also has said that if I go, it may help show my WW that there is a loss or potential loss which may motivate her even more.
I have been reluctant to do it as I don't know anyone who has done a trial separation and ended up back together. The MC countered with asking "how many people stay married after an affair like this?" So I haven't said anything to my WW yet. I am as confident as I can be that she is NC with the AP and has been. I have no desire to start a new relationship. I am just wondering if time apart would be good.
What is everyone's experience with this?
To give background, married almost 10 years, wife had an almost 7 month PA after having a separate EA 4 months earlier. We have a 7 year old. We are in MC and IC (she just started IC this week -finally). I am 3 months post D-day as it seems to be written.
I am thinking this could be a good thing, just wondering what others have experienced with it. My thought would be to start this coming weekend and to be 'not sleeping here' the month of February to start. I would come by see my kid, my dogs, interact but definitely not "live here." Thanks
I have been reluctant to do it as I don't know anyone who has done a trial separation and ended up back together. The MC countered with asking "how many people stay married after an affair like this?" So I haven't said anything to my WW yet. I am as confident as I can be that she is NC with the AP and has been. I have no desire to start a new relationship. I am just wondering if time apart would be good.
What is everyone's experience with this?
To give background, married almost 10 years, wife had an almost 7 month PA after having a separate EA 4 months earlier. We have a 7 year old. We are in MC and IC (she just started IC this week -finally). I am 3 months post D-day as it seems to be written.
I am thinking this could be a good thing, just wondering what others have experienced with it. My thought would be to start this coming weekend and to be 'not sleeping here' the month of February to start. I would come by see my kid, my dogs, interact but definitely not "live here." Thanks
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