To keep this as short as possible: Me and my boyfriend have been together since 18. We went to separate universities and did the long distance thing for 3 years (about a 3 hour train journey from each other).
We are still together now. I've graduated and I'm still looking for a full time graduate role. He is doing his 4th year and is applying for graduate schemes.
With graduate jobs up and down the country and the current economy, it's become a case of apply anywhere and move there. And it's made me realise that realistically, we're going to end up being long distance again. He's applying to very specific graduate schemes and whilst he says he'll think about me before making a decision, I could never ask that of someone. There's a high chance he will be offered a place on a Sep 2014 grad scheme before I've secured a full time grad role. Similarly, with the trouble I've been having in finding a grad job, I couldn't then just focus on applying to one city.
He thinks that we'll make it work no matter what. I'm not convinced. I remember how hard long distance was to begin with and all the problems that come with it. I naively thought that long distance would just be for the university years, I didn't even consider that going into working life it could be the same.
A job has no deadline, I don't know if I could handle the uncertainty of not knowing if and when we'll stop having to do the long journeys.
I wouldn't say either of us have major trust issues, but I'm not stupid, I know that feelings can change when you meet new people and spend more and more time with them and not with each other.
I guess what I want from you lot is to tell me what you would do. Am I thinking too far ahead or seeing things too negatively?
Girls and guys opinions are welcomed, even moreso if you've been through it.
P.S: Sorry, this turned out to be quite long.
We are still together now. I've graduated and I'm still looking for a full time graduate role. He is doing his 4th year and is applying for graduate schemes.
With graduate jobs up and down the country and the current economy, it's become a case of apply anywhere and move there. And it's made me realise that realistically, we're going to end up being long distance again. He's applying to very specific graduate schemes and whilst he says he'll think about me before making a decision, I could never ask that of someone. There's a high chance he will be offered a place on a Sep 2014 grad scheme before I've secured a full time grad role. Similarly, with the trouble I've been having in finding a grad job, I couldn't then just focus on applying to one city.
He thinks that we'll make it work no matter what. I'm not convinced. I remember how hard long distance was to begin with and all the problems that come with it. I naively thought that long distance would just be for the university years, I didn't even consider that going into working life it could be the same.
A job has no deadline, I don't know if I could handle the uncertainty of not knowing if and when we'll stop having to do the long journeys.
I wouldn't say either of us have major trust issues, but I'm not stupid, I know that feelings can change when you meet new people and spend more and more time with them and not with each other.
I guess what I want from you lot is to tell me what you would do. Am I thinking too far ahead or seeing things too negatively?
Girls and guys opinions are welcomed, even moreso if you've been through it.
P.S: Sorry, this turned out to be quite long.
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