Struggling over the idea of divorce ... I've been doing some reading and I believe I am in a emotional abusive relationship.
Every time my husband and I argue he constantly tells me that he wants a divorce. We will argue about the smallest things that explodes into a full blown arguments that will last for days. When he is upset at me, he acts like I don't exist and ignores me. When I make attempts to try to talk to him he is unresponsive. This is the game that we have been playing for years now. I feel like he never takes into consideration my feelings or thoughts and is always so quick to just throw our marriage away. I am not like that. I am a firm believer in marriage and when you take your vows you are in it for the long haul. All tempts to try to fix the marriage should be considered but now I am finding myself struggling over the idea of divorce.
He has said it so many times already but has never acted on it. This last time he said it, I feel like saying "Let's do it!" Obviously, for him to say it that many times he must genuinely feel that way and I am tired of dealing with aftermath of our arguments ... the rejection, the constant thought of doubting myself or thinking I did something wrong, the "silent treatment". Its emotionally stressful and this is not me. I feel like I cannot be the person I need to be for my child.
We have a 1 year old and the thought of my child not growing up without his father absolutely kills me. Now that the holidays are upon us I am so torn what to do. I honestly cannot bare the thought of spending the holidays with him and putting a show like everything is ok but I would do it for my child.
I'm thinking after the holidays to leave with the baby for a few days so he can get a taste of not having us around would be like.
Good idea or bad?
Just looking for some advice from anyone going / gone through similar situations.
*side note - we are currently not talking and he wants a divorce
Every time my husband and I argue he constantly tells me that he wants a divorce. We will argue about the smallest things that explodes into a full blown arguments that will last for days. When he is upset at me, he acts like I don't exist and ignores me. When I make attempts to try to talk to him he is unresponsive. This is the game that we have been playing for years now. I feel like he never takes into consideration my feelings or thoughts and is always so quick to just throw our marriage away. I am not like that. I am a firm believer in marriage and when you take your vows you are in it for the long haul. All tempts to try to fix the marriage should be considered but now I am finding myself struggling over the idea of divorce.
He has said it so many times already but has never acted on it. This last time he said it, I feel like saying "Let's do it!" Obviously, for him to say it that many times he must genuinely feel that way and I am tired of dealing with aftermath of our arguments ... the rejection, the constant thought of doubting myself or thinking I did something wrong, the "silent treatment". Its emotionally stressful and this is not me. I feel like I cannot be the person I need to be for my child.
We have a 1 year old and the thought of my child not growing up without his father absolutely kills me. Now that the holidays are upon us I am so torn what to do. I honestly cannot bare the thought of spending the holidays with him and putting a show like everything is ok but I would do it for my child.
I'm thinking after the holidays to leave with the baby for a few days so he can get a taste of not having us around would be like.
Good idea or bad?
Just looking for some advice from anyone going / gone through similar situations.
*side note - we are currently not talking and he wants a divorce
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