| First time posting here, or ANY forum for that matter. I really wish i would have found this site back in June 2012. I was raised to be an Alpha dog, clean my own mess up, and keep my private business private. I've tried everything I can come up with on my own and I have failed miserably. Was hoping to get an outside viewpoint as I sure add heck can't talk to my family or friends about this (they all know her and probably like her more anyhow) Right, here we go. I'll try not to saturate y'all with details...sorry about typos my phone sucks! Met my wife 10 years ago online. Did the long distance thing at first. Then made it official. Been married nearly 7 years now, two kids between 3 and 5. I'm not going to lie and say our marriage was perfect (we never completely adjusted to having kids and being partners). Along came DDay. I discovered she had been cyber screwing some guy from an online FB game she played. (let's call him OM1). He lived 1200 miles away. I didnt know what to do. I nearly left her then to file for a D, but I wanted to work things out for the kids, i love her, and she promised it wasn't serious, just acting in character for her game. She promised NC, i wrote OM1 a cease n desist message on FB and thought it was over. 3 months later, i noticed she was all of sudden less interested in me sexually, and was staying up late past me going to bed for work. She says it's her hormonal/adrenal issues that cause her to not be tired. She was always on the other side of the house on her laptop typing aw ay, but quickly changing screens when I came in. I asked her several times if it was him, or any other guy, she swore it wasn't. Like a fool, i take her word for it. The pattern continued and one night i walked in on her with her breasts pulled out while she was webcamming with OM1. I know because i tore the laptop from her grip and checked. They were back at it. I ask her if she has feelings for him and she says sometimes(ouch). But she swears she loves me and will end it. Like a lovestruck fool i take her word again. The late night internet use continues, sex becomes rare and when it happens, she is drinking and has the look of lets get this over with. I try to play an online game with her and notice she is very flirty with a few males. They all acted weird when i was around (they video skyped while playing.) Finally I come to my senses and learn how to view her skype chats and discover 5 months worth of Skype chat logs in which she cyberscrewed at least 4 OMs. She also talked about OM1 very often with one of the extra 4 OMs. So I gathered my evidence, confronted her and she said she isnt sure if she wants to stay married. She somehow convinced me it was all my fault. I was mean to her, and took her for granted. I believed it for a few days. Then I found this site. She took the initiative and went NC with all the OMs and even 1 i didn't know about. She agreed to going to MC with me. Things seem a little better, but the scorned part of me is afraid it's just a phase. I feel like i am jus t waiting for her to do it again. I can do the keylogger thing, but it wouldn't feel like a marriage at all. I have NO trust left to give. All but one of the OM were very long distance. I control the finances, and car mileage, and phone records. I am 99.9% sure there is no PA. From the messages i read, it sounded like she was about to plan for a divorce. But she swears none of those cybersex episodes were serious. They meant nothing to her. Can anyone relate? | |||
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