What do you get out of counselling?

I have said to my WH that we need to go to counselling. It's one of the conditions of me even considering a R. He's not unwilling, but he asked me what we would get out of it. Honestly, I wasn't sure what to tell him as I don't know myself. We tried couples counselling once before when things first started to go wrong. I didn't like the woman - I felt she didn't understand our problems, she even laughed at me one time. I stopped going as the things we'd agreed to do in counselling, he didn't do afterwards, or he twisted it to make it seem like my memory of what we'd agreed to was faulty. But everything I've read on here seems to suggest that counselling after an A is the way to go. So, what happens during counselling? Do they give you a list of things to do to help? Do they give you a magic quick-fix potion? What I want is to a) get some help to get over the pain of the A and b) get some help to fix what was wrong in our marriage in the first place for the A to have happened.

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