Was your WS selfish before cheating?

I believe that cheating is a very selfish choice. To me, it's the 'crux' of WHY they cheated. I also know that my exb/f exhibited selfish tendencies and had a self-serving attitude. I'm convinced that he would not have been able to cheat if he had aligned *my* needs with his own. I noticed his selfishness before he cheated, but it wasn't something I addressed as an issue. I'm just wondering if anyone else noticed if their partner (spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend/fiance) exhibited selfish traits before it was revealed that they cheated? Vega

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