I think I married a Passive-Aggressive?

I am really starting to dislike my husband. He's the type that avoids confrontation, and then explodes after several months of avoidance. He uses a lot of "covert" ways to try to push my buttons. Examples: We were supposed to go to a college basketball game together. He was idling the car in the garage, and I asked him not to make a habit of that, because carbon monoxide is not a good thing (stuff like this tends to make me anxious). He didn't like being "told what to do" and decided that he wouldn't go to the game with me. I believe he thought by removing himself from our plans, he was punishing me. I still went to the game, because it may have been the only time I got to watch those two teams play one another. When I returned home, he acted nice enough, but he smelled like beer. I am a recovering alcoholic, and feel rather strongly about not bringing alcohol into the house. When we were first married, he would get near physical violence, as he would head straight for the bottle during any argument. For over five years, he's respected my wishes and not brought any into the house. I felt that this was another passive-aggressive "jab" to push boundaries, because I still went to the game and did not feel "punished" by the fact that he stayed home. So he had to punish me by pushing a very touchy boundary. When I woke up this morning, I began to study in the bedroom. He normally watches television in the living room, so that he doesn't disturb me. Today, he came into the bedroom and turned the tv on, presumably just to cause a distraction. I asked what he was doing and he acted like this was something he'd always done, knowing full well that that is not the case. He finally left the room. He is seriously irritating the crap out of me; I thought only women acted out in this way. Is he a passive-aggressive? A narcissist? Just immature? I don't get it.

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