Do I stay or leave?

My husband of 2 years and I have been through some very tough times this past year. I'm getting out of the depression I was in, it feels great, but unfortunately, my hubby's not there with me. Tonight, I was finally able to get him to answer some of my questions. He says I've been nagging him constantly, I tried to explain it's because I needed for him to open up and communicate with me. I let him know that I was prepared to move out to an apartment if that is what he needed: time to himself and time to think about his marriage and what he wanted/or not. I do have another recent post somewhere if you wish to read about my history in more detail. I lost a child. Firstly, I must point out that getting him to open up and talk about issues in our marriage (especially emotional issues) in any way, is nearly impossible and that he makes sure to point out how annoyed he is regarding my insistence we open up and discuss this subject matter. His ideal wife: silent, nice, on tap when he needs her. I am those, but much more also! I refuse to be a door mat!! I persisted as kindly and thoughtfully as I could. He said I was arguing again, my tone was quiet, my words were not accusatory. I was asking questions. We've been through some terrible stuff together that I honestly don't want to talk about right now. I was depressed for a year and he was as a consequence. Now I'm crawling out of the dark and I find he's so emotionally clammed up, that he no longer shows emotion for me. I feel completely alone and insecure about his love for me, as a consequence, I feel insecure about our marriage. I explained this tonight to him and he said "I no longer feel emotion towards you". He said he still loves me though..how does this compute? In my mind, he no longer loves me and I don't know how to get 'us' back. I explained this to him, I said "I can move out and give you some space, maybe that's what you need for a while" he said he didn't want me to move out. I am so insecure in this marriage, well, more precisely about his love for me, that I worry about him wanting to be with other women constantly. He hates it of course and said he doesn't like to be with me in public because any woman he finds good looking is an issue for me. He tells me he has no wish to be with any other woman. He does however love to look at the fairer sex and it's no secret to any woman he's with, his exs had issues with him about it also. What I wish he would understand is that every time he checks out someone in front of me, it hurts. It hurts because he doesn't look at me that way anymore :( All I wish is to know my husband loves me and wants to be with only me. I feel completely alone however in this marriage and we hardly ever make love anymore. Considering he and I both went though hell for a year, should I stick by him regardless of how little empathy and feeling he has for me? should I give him space? Or should I just leave for good. I might be completely wrong, but I feel as though he's keeping me hanging on till he finds something better to replace me with. Then again, that could be my insecurity talking. He's a hard man to read because he refuses to communicate most of the time. When a couple has been through hell and back, what do you do to remain married, what can you do to bring back happiness? How do you help a man recover emotionally from the guilt and hurt and powerlessness he's felt for the past year? What about intimacy? How can you make your husband lust for you again? oh, I know, so many questions. I'm not 40 yet, have much to learn.

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