I am trying to wrap my head around those who pull the classic bait and switch to get married.
My understanding of it is to put out sexually in order to get a stable relationship or get married. Once that is done, the sex slows way down or stops altogether.
In some situations I can understand a bait and switch, such as someone looking to gain a financially stable relationship (such as a golddigger) or someone who maybe looking to gain other material items, such as a home, or a father/mother figure for their children from a previous relationship.
But in most cases, those who seem to pull the bait and switch (based on what we read on boards such as TAM) do so solely as a means to get into a relationship/marriage and then drop the sexual activity rapidly after that. Many stories are of people who aren't rich, and the sex died off even before children.
As such, why would these people in those situations even want to pull the bait and switch? What is so special about being in a relationship (which is low/no sex) to them that they are willing to go to such measures to get it? Why do they stay when they have no desire for their partner sexually?
My understanding of it is to put out sexually in order to get a stable relationship or get married. Once that is done, the sex slows way down or stops altogether.
In some situations I can understand a bait and switch, such as someone looking to gain a financially stable relationship (such as a golddigger) or someone who maybe looking to gain other material items, such as a home, or a father/mother figure for their children from a previous relationship.
But in most cases, those who seem to pull the bait and switch (based on what we read on boards such as TAM) do so solely as a means to get into a relationship/marriage and then drop the sexual activity rapidly after that. Many stories are of people who aren't rich, and the sex died off even before children.
As such, why would these people in those situations even want to pull the bait and switch? What is so special about being in a relationship (which is low/no sex) to them that they are willing to go to such measures to get it? Why do they stay when they have no desire for their partner sexually?
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