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A question for the ladies please..

Hello ladies, I hope you don't mind me popping in but I would like to hack into the mind of a woman if you would be so kind.

My wife and I are currently going through some difficuilties which I have discussed in my previous thread - basically she has got caught up in a fantasy with another man, sending him pictures upon request and doing all the dirty chat. She has been a fan of the fifty shades trilogy and likes the Karen Rose books - and her explanation is that it felt as if she was carrying on with her own private interactive novel.

I do believe that this was an online only deal as the other guy is much older, and is in a lot of the celebrity social circles (he has 50000 or so followers on Twitter), that combined with my wife's 4 month pregnancy bump and our other son to cart around I'm obliged to believe her.
I work away a lot and so I have been partly blamed for my absences, leaving her seeking attention online.

When we are together we have a very healthy active relationship - I sometimes felt that she was carrying out antics from her literature as she is very creative, but I could keep up and it is never dull.

The frequencies of our physical relationship goes up and down with her libido, she blames the pregnancy and I am clever enough not to argue with a pregnant woman. I am now however slightly concerned that she may have carried out fantasies on me, that she got excited and turned on from by talking to this other guy.

I am having trouble communicating with her as she can't explain - this I understand. We are waiting for counselling referral but in the mean time I have asked her to try to write down how she feels and what we need to do to work on things.

So my question for you all is whether to you, this would have felt like infidelity? I have discussed this with some of my nearest and dearest, to explain and understand my behaviour, and all the feedback I have got is that it is cheating and I got similar here on TAM.

I did however have 1 lady colleague whom I confided in and she is adamant that it wasn't cheating, and was just a misjudgment on the boundaries of our trust. She now lives alone and has been hurt by her ex-husband, and considering that she has met my wife I do value her opinion.

I am not trying to get an army of references saying she cheated, quite the opposite actually. She's finding it very hard to talk and her family don't talk to each other about their problems.

2 comments:

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  2. HOW DR. UNEME brought back my ex lover unemespellben@gmail.com
    Am DONNA, am from UK. After been in a relationship with my Boyfriend for 1 year now and we were planning to get married soon and all of a sudden he left me for another girl. of a truth, I really love this guy and never can I imagine life without him. I further tried all my best to get him back but all my effort to get him back in my life did not work out. It was on this faithful day, I came across some Testimonies on a website about this great spell caster called (Dr. UNEME) any persons claimed that he help them to renew their relationship and bring their ex lover back, I had to contact him because he was my last hope. I contacted him through his email and he assured me that in three days time my boyfriend is going to leave the other girl and come back to me and it was a very great surprise to see my boyfriend coming back to me after three days the spell was done. I am so very happy today that he came back to me and i achieved this with the help of Dr UNEME I equally want to use this opportunity to Tell/Advice to as many who need their ex back, if you need his help you can Contact him through
    EMAIL: unemespellben@gmail.com WHATSAPP HIM @ +2348143813120


    Thank You Once Again Dr.UNEME

    ReplyDelete