Apologies for such a long post:
During June – August of this year (2012), I volunteered in Thailand during the summer break at uni (I’m in my final year). I met the most amazing guy out there, he was also volunteering, and we hit it off straight away and since returning to the UK we’ve been seeing each other ever since. Our relationship has grown to the point where I am madly and deeply in love with this guy and I’m convinced he isn’t lying when he tells me he shares the same feelings about me. It’s gone from being in love with him to a point where words just can’t describe it - I was almost content and 100% care free. That is, until the other day.
He told me he’d go the job he’d applied for in Manchester (he graduated from Man met uni this year). Initially I was over the moon for him starting out in his new career and the fact things could remain pretty much the same as they are now if not better, because Manchester is only a 30 minute train journey from Keele Uni (my place to call home until next June). But then he went on to tell me this job requires him to work in Manchester for 8 weeks or 8 months before jetting off to the Philippines for a year! Oh, my, gosh, that just cut so deep , it made me angry and it hurt so much and still does.
But that’s the thing y’see. Is this just me being totally selfish towards him and such a good opportunity? Or is this him being totally selfish towards my emotions and our relationship? Or both? He did apply for this job during our relationship, so he knew what he was applying for, at which point I should add, he never added that small detail when I asked what the job entailed. This is such an emotional ride that I have never experienced before.
I love this guy, I really do. But I don’t know if I can love him long distance, and I don’t know if I want to. As much as I love him, I just feel I’m too young to be put on hold. Now I’ve tasted how amazing love feels, I want a relationship. I don’t want to be put on hold for a year! I’m not willing enough to work at a long distance relationship – do they even work? My heart is in his hands, but my anger is in mine and I feel like quitting. So what do I do? Do I at least try? Or should I just quit and move on?
During June – August of this year (2012), I volunteered in Thailand during the summer break at uni (I’m in my final year). I met the most amazing guy out there, he was also volunteering, and we hit it off straight away and since returning to the UK we’ve been seeing each other ever since. Our relationship has grown to the point where I am madly and deeply in love with this guy and I’m convinced he isn’t lying when he tells me he shares the same feelings about me. It’s gone from being in love with him to a point where words just can’t describe it - I was almost content and 100% care free. That is, until the other day.
He told me he’d go the job he’d applied for in Manchester (he graduated from Man met uni this year). Initially I was over the moon for him starting out in his new career and the fact things could remain pretty much the same as they are now if not better, because Manchester is only a 30 minute train journey from Keele Uni (my place to call home until next June). But then he went on to tell me this job requires him to work in Manchester for 8 weeks or 8 months before jetting off to the Philippines for a year! Oh, my, gosh, that just cut so deep , it made me angry and it hurt so much and still does.
But that’s the thing y’see. Is this just me being totally selfish towards him and such a good opportunity? Or is this him being totally selfish towards my emotions and our relationship? Or both? He did apply for this job during our relationship, so he knew what he was applying for, at which point I should add, he never added that small detail when I asked what the job entailed. This is such an emotional ride that I have never experienced before.
I love this guy, I really do. But I don’t know if I can love him long distance, and I don’t know if I want to. As much as I love him, I just feel I’m too young to be put on hold. Now I’ve tasted how amazing love feels, I want a relationship. I don’t want to be put on hold for a year! I’m not willing enough to work at a long distance relationship – do they even work? My heart is in his hands, but my anger is in mine and I feel like quitting. So what do I do? Do I at least try? Or should I just quit and move on?
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