So - I have this friend [M38] (not close, but still a friend) who has been with his fiance [F38] for about 18 months. They bought a house and have been living together for about 5 months. About at the same time they bought the house - 9 months ago - he told his ex GF [42] (my friend) about his new situation, and from then on it seems he's been having a hard time letting his ex go.
They've been talking a lot, sexting, and they've had sex at least a couple of times. They both faced some pretty major obstacles this past year, and probably found some comefort in each other.
He got involved with this new girl pretty soon after the break-up with his ex. His ex (my friend) still has feelings for him and is having a hard time letting him go.
He has given his ex everything (and then some) needed to ruin his life, and he just keeps on giving. Can anyone be happy in these situations? Of all the girls "available" he chose his ex to cheat with. This is same game guy who said that cheating is the worst thing anyone can do to another human being.
So my questions are as follows:
Is he having problems or is he happy? When he posts FB-updates of his happy new life and stays in touch with his ex - what is going on with him? His new GF doesn't seem to know anything (I don't understand how that is possible, but then again she, or his ex, might not know him that well...).
Knowing him I don't understand how he's able to live this double life. Is his FB-updates about him convincing himself that everything is fine?
Should I talk to him about this situation - as his friend? Besides his ex I'm the only one who knows almost all the details of this mess.
They've been talking a lot, sexting, and they've had sex at least a couple of times. They both faced some pretty major obstacles this past year, and probably found some comefort in each other.
He got involved with this new girl pretty soon after the break-up with his ex. His ex (my friend) still has feelings for him and is having a hard time letting him go.
He has given his ex everything (and then some) needed to ruin his life, and he just keeps on giving. Can anyone be happy in these situations? Of all the girls "available" he chose his ex to cheat with. This is same game guy who said that cheating is the worst thing anyone can do to another human being.
So my questions are as follows:
Is he having problems or is he happy? When he posts FB-updates of his happy new life and stays in touch with his ex - what is going on with him? His new GF doesn't seem to know anything (I don't understand how that is possible, but then again she, or his ex, might not know him that well...).
Knowing him I don't understand how he's able to live this double life. Is his FB-updates about him convincing himself that everything is fine?
Should I talk to him about this situation - as his friend? Besides his ex I'm the only one who knows almost all the details of this mess.
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