Hello everyone I'm new to this so please bear with me. I've been struggling with a relationship that my wife has with one of my ex friends. Let me break it ALL down.
I became friends with a guy that I work with and we started to hangout outside of work. We shared a lot of the same interests but is quite a bit younger than me, but my wife and I were both friends with him. Over time our friendship started to fade when I started to realize he was a very selfish individual and would never "return the favor" so to speak. I would confide in my wife about my issues with him and she encouraged me to talk to him about it. So I did.... His response was basically "don't call me anymore". My wife didn't seem phased by his response at all and brushed it off and continued to be friends with him. Well, she maintained her friendship with him without making it common knowledge. His name would only come up if I were to ask about it. She knows I'm upset about the fact that she didn't stick up for me and right him off as he did me. I can't help but think there is something more. He bought her a birthday gift this year and she just recently bought him a gift for a recent achievement. Of course, I only know about her gift to him because I stumbled across it. We just celebrated our 8th anniversary. When we exchanged gifts she mentioned that my gift was over her usual budget. BUT, her gift to him was twice as much as my anniversary gift.
Does all this rambling make sense to everyone? Am I just over reacting or am I upset for a good reason?
I became friends with a guy that I work with and we started to hangout outside of work. We shared a lot of the same interests but is quite a bit younger than me, but my wife and I were both friends with him. Over time our friendship started to fade when I started to realize he was a very selfish individual and would never "return the favor" so to speak. I would confide in my wife about my issues with him and she encouraged me to talk to him about it. So I did.... His response was basically "don't call me anymore". My wife didn't seem phased by his response at all and brushed it off and continued to be friends with him. Well, she maintained her friendship with him without making it common knowledge. His name would only come up if I were to ask about it. She knows I'm upset about the fact that she didn't stick up for me and right him off as he did me. I can't help but think there is something more. He bought her a birthday gift this year and she just recently bought him a gift for a recent achievement. Of course, I only know about her gift to him because I stumbled across it. We just celebrated our 8th anniversary. When we exchanged gifts she mentioned that my gift was over her usual budget. BUT, her gift to him was twice as much as my anniversary gift.
Does all this rambling make sense to everyone? Am I just over reacting or am I upset for a good reason?
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