I'm sure many of you have read about my stbxh starting an affair in Feb with a former gf. He filed for divorce, moved in with her and has been playing house since. His constant texts about coming over to the house because his "name is still on the mortgage" got me riled up enough that my atty sent a letter stating he only be allowed by giving advanced notice and if it were by mutual agreement. He contacted me yesterday stating that he was stopping by after work to which I responded, "Obviously the letter you received from my atty is open to interpretation?" He was a bit angry and said that he would never be allowed here because I would never agree. Stated he "misses home" and "would just like a moment there." I told him that he seemed to have forgotten that HE decided to leave "our property" and "our home" to make a home elsewhere, and that if my not agreeing to his visits bothered him, I would not apologize, it simply does NOT make sense.
Long story short, he came over and I said some pretty impolite things about his gf…just needed to get them off my chest..he told me he could never say he hates me…that we've both hurt and been hurt..then blindsided me saying he HAD planned on moving BACK into the house in March!!! Oh wait, wasn't that when his affair was blooming???:/ (and is continuing as I write this???)
Saw him at work today, and he said he can't imagine the house being sold to someone else. He wants to move back…I said the thing he is living with will NEVER be welcomed there so how would that work? Because he "opened up about this he is vulnerable" is afraid I will use this information as an advantage, when we have our settlement conference on Thursday.. how can I use that against him?? :scratchhead: I told him the marriage is done, what will be will be…he said legal things can always be Un-done..I responded by saying, but not the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual hurt...
I am trying to make sense of this newest development. I DO NOT love him, actually despise him at times, and would like some insight, comments,etc… I am completely bewildered….
Long story short, he came over and I said some pretty impolite things about his gf…just needed to get them off my chest..he told me he could never say he hates me…that we've both hurt and been hurt..then blindsided me saying he HAD planned on moving BACK into the house in March!!! Oh wait, wasn't that when his affair was blooming???:/ (and is continuing as I write this???)
Saw him at work today, and he said he can't imagine the house being sold to someone else. He wants to move back…I said the thing he is living with will NEVER be welcomed there so how would that work? Because he "opened up about this he is vulnerable" is afraid I will use this information as an advantage, when we have our settlement conference on Thursday.. how can I use that against him?? :scratchhead: I told him the marriage is done, what will be will be…he said legal things can always be Un-done..I responded by saying, but not the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual hurt...
I am trying to make sense of this newest development. I DO NOT love him, actually despise him at times, and would like some insight, comments,etc… I am completely bewildered….
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