Hi all. I am going to try to keep this as short and to the point as possible. Thank you in advance for your advice.
My fiance, of just a month, is moving out. He says he isn't breaking up with me, but he isn't going to talk to me for awhile either unless it pertains to our kids. He says to post pone wedding planning, but not take off my ring. He thinks living separately for a year will help us both learn who we are. I think he is just saying all this and there is no reconciliation.
We have been together off and on for three years. We both have our issues. I won't dig into too deep but he is quite controlling and in return it makes me somewhat of a *****.
I was a stay at home mom until last September. Once I went back to work I will admit my homely duties haven't been as up to par as I go into work at 5am and am quite exhausted by the time I get home. The lack of sleep also instills in me some moodiness.
He left in January, but came back with a set list of rules 1. Cleanliness 2. Follow-through 3. Respect 4. Honesty and 5. Family. If I stayed true to these 5 things we would be fine. I did. And we were fine. So fine. Best we have ever been fine. He finally proposed in Late April.
Shortly after I got offered a HUGE job promotion. So huge. We were going to be set. He was so happy as was I. I just had to make it through the interview process. He was confident in me, I was not. My nerves while still working my current work schedule make me exhausted, moody and defintely didnt keep up on house during this 2 and a half week time period.
Last week, he said I haven't been sticking to the list and he was leaving. He tried to call it all off then, then took five minutes and apologized for being rash. But since has gathered thoughts of leaving and is currently moving things.
I am a person who acts on emotion and I am lost. I don't know what to do. He has issues too. He is so controlling. I can't even wear my hair in a pony tail or he takes it down. I can't go to the grocery store without telling him first that is what I am doing. Had my son call him dad after 3 months due to his own insercurities. Doesn't deem it his responsibility to take our daughter to daycare twice a week. Like there are issues both ways, not just on me but I am getting all the blame.
I don't understand. My head is pounding. I don't know how to react when he comes back for his next load. I dont want to cry and beg because I have respect for myself, but I want him to stay and work through this instead of putting up this defensive manner that just tears us apart.
A month ago he proposed, 10 days ago he was so proud about my job and excited for how our future was going to look, and today he is gone, but not "gone'?? What do i do?
My fiance, of just a month, is moving out. He says he isn't breaking up with me, but he isn't going to talk to me for awhile either unless it pertains to our kids. He says to post pone wedding planning, but not take off my ring. He thinks living separately for a year will help us both learn who we are. I think he is just saying all this and there is no reconciliation.
We have been together off and on for three years. We both have our issues. I won't dig into too deep but he is quite controlling and in return it makes me somewhat of a *****.
I was a stay at home mom until last September. Once I went back to work I will admit my homely duties haven't been as up to par as I go into work at 5am and am quite exhausted by the time I get home. The lack of sleep also instills in me some moodiness.
He left in January, but came back with a set list of rules 1. Cleanliness 2. Follow-through 3. Respect 4. Honesty and 5. Family. If I stayed true to these 5 things we would be fine. I did. And we were fine. So fine. Best we have ever been fine. He finally proposed in Late April.
Shortly after I got offered a HUGE job promotion. So huge. We were going to be set. He was so happy as was I. I just had to make it through the interview process. He was confident in me, I was not. My nerves while still working my current work schedule make me exhausted, moody and defintely didnt keep up on house during this 2 and a half week time period.
Last week, he said I haven't been sticking to the list and he was leaving. He tried to call it all off then, then took five minutes and apologized for being rash. But since has gathered thoughts of leaving and is currently moving things.
I am a person who acts on emotion and I am lost. I don't know what to do. He has issues too. He is so controlling. I can't even wear my hair in a pony tail or he takes it down. I can't go to the grocery store without telling him first that is what I am doing. Had my son call him dad after 3 months due to his own insercurities. Doesn't deem it his responsibility to take our daughter to daycare twice a week. Like there are issues both ways, not just on me but I am getting all the blame.
I don't understand. My head is pounding. I don't know how to react when he comes back for his next load. I dont want to cry and beg because I have respect for myself, but I want him to stay and work through this instead of putting up this defensive manner that just tears us apart.
A month ago he proposed, 10 days ago he was so proud about my job and excited for how our future was going to look, and today he is gone, but not "gone'?? What do i do?
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