I was a CSA and I was in an abusive relationship with the father of my oldest kids. I got away from him and eventually met my DH, I admit I was really standoffish.....scared of being hurt. He was super affectionate, kissed me. Then it suddenly stopped one day.
In regards to my own CSA there was one particular act that I connected to my abuse and I couldnt do it, it brought back painful memories. Over time and therapy I did overcome it and it is no longer an issue.
I voiced to dh that I wanted him to kiss me, touch me again the way he used to and he originally blamed his mother for his nonaffection, that "he wasnt that type of man" then he said he didnt like to kiss because of CSA that happened to him when he was 14 when his aunts boyfriend.
Im confused, if he connected kissing to this particular CSA then wouldnt he have avoided it at all costs straight from the beginning? BTW he kissed all the other girls he had previously been with. I think he just doesnt feel that way towards me so he cant do it.
In regards to my own CSA there was one particular act that I connected to my abuse and I couldnt do it, it brought back painful memories. Over time and therapy I did overcome it and it is no longer an issue.
I voiced to dh that I wanted him to kiss me, touch me again the way he used to and he originally blamed his mother for his nonaffection, that "he wasnt that type of man" then he said he didnt like to kiss because of CSA that happened to him when he was 14 when his aunts boyfriend.
Im confused, if he connected kissing to this particular CSA then wouldnt he have avoided it at all costs straight from the beginning? BTW he kissed all the other girls he had previously been with. I think he just doesnt feel that way towards me so he cant do it.
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