Hello,
I have a wife that I have been married to for over 4 years. We have a son that is 2. No problems at all until recently.
I recently found out she is going to be traveling for 2 weeks this month. 1 trip internationally, the other is not. Both are 5-7 days each.
Here is my problem. I hate it when she travels. I had a dad that traveled to this day gone M-F every week. I always told my wife I would not travel, and expected very little from her too. I have not broken that promise.
I do get very anxious when she travels. Its wierd, but I have always been very transparent about travel.
She will be gone most of the month this month. One was for work, the other was for work, but its a conferance***(not required)
She wants another child, (right now) but we are not on the same page because she wants to continue to travel.
There is more to why I hate her traveling (stresses us both out, time zone differances, ect) I have a full time job, both make the same money.
The most frustrating part of this is that both trips, she gave me no notice, when she knew about them 2 months before hand. One of the trips she just told me about 2 days ago and she is leaving next week. Her not telling me really grinded my gears.
To me if you want to have another child, you have to be present.
She has not been acting like herself, she said she "would not let anyone control her" I am annoyed and disappointed that she is traveling for the conferance, as it is a party for 3 nights with a concert.
I have no idea if any of this makes sense.
The only thing we fight about is when she "has" to travel internationally. The last time she traveled Internationale she had a miscarrige before she left for Moscow for 7 days.
I know I might seem like a total jerk, but I just want to remove the travel, its the biggest problem other than my insecurity.
I am at a total loss of what to do. I feel trapped and like the marriage is falling apart for no real reason.
I have a wife that I have been married to for over 4 years. We have a son that is 2. No problems at all until recently.
I recently found out she is going to be traveling for 2 weeks this month. 1 trip internationally, the other is not. Both are 5-7 days each.
Here is my problem. I hate it when she travels. I had a dad that traveled to this day gone M-F every week. I always told my wife I would not travel, and expected very little from her too. I have not broken that promise.
I do get very anxious when she travels. Its wierd, but I have always been very transparent about travel.
She will be gone most of the month this month. One was for work, the other was for work, but its a conferance***(not required)
She wants another child, (right now) but we are not on the same page because she wants to continue to travel.
There is more to why I hate her traveling (stresses us both out, time zone differances, ect) I have a full time job, both make the same money.
The most frustrating part of this is that both trips, she gave me no notice, when she knew about them 2 months before hand. One of the trips she just told me about 2 days ago and she is leaving next week. Her not telling me really grinded my gears.
To me if you want to have another child, you have to be present.
She has not been acting like herself, she said she "would not let anyone control her" I am annoyed and disappointed that she is traveling for the conferance, as it is a party for 3 nights with a concert.
I have no idea if any of this makes sense.
The only thing we fight about is when she "has" to travel internationally. The last time she traveled Internationale she had a miscarrige before she left for Moscow for 7 days.
I know I might seem like a total jerk, but I just want to remove the travel, its the biggest problem other than my insecurity.
I am at a total loss of what to do. I feel trapped and like the marriage is falling apart for no real reason.
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