I've decided to stop describing my situation as "I'm separated" (when it comes up), to "I'm a single mom". It shifts my focus from my impending divorce, to the fact that I am the primary caretaker of my daughter.
It is a very hard road. I have a profound respect for single moms (and single dads). I work full time, thankfully my parents take care of my little one, but by the time I get home with my daughter it's 7pm. Then it's dinner, cleaning, sometimes cooking, and the bed-time routine.
I've been separated only 7 months. I tried to make it an amicable separation/divorce, but his weaknesses and my weaknesses prevented that from happening. Most of it is due to lack of communication. I feel devastated. And I just want to know - any single moms/single dads out there - how did you get through it? How did you raise a happy, active child without allowing the resentment/hurt of your divorce to negatively affect your child...? She's only 2, but in a few months will be intelligent enough to understand that her parents don't speak to each other when they see each other. Her dad and I had an argument on the phone yesterday which completely shattered my whole day, emotionally destroyed me for the day basically - and she was in the room when I was talking to him on the phone. I saw her watching me when I hung up - and I realized what a horrible thing it is, to allow her to see me react in such a negative way.
She's my priority. I feel like I'm falling apart.
It is a very hard road. I have a profound respect for single moms (and single dads). I work full time, thankfully my parents take care of my little one, but by the time I get home with my daughter it's 7pm. Then it's dinner, cleaning, sometimes cooking, and the bed-time routine.
I've been separated only 7 months. I tried to make it an amicable separation/divorce, but his weaknesses and my weaknesses prevented that from happening. Most of it is due to lack of communication. I feel devastated. And I just want to know - any single moms/single dads out there - how did you get through it? How did you raise a happy, active child without allowing the resentment/hurt of your divorce to negatively affect your child...? She's only 2, but in a few months will be intelligent enough to understand that her parents don't speak to each other when they see each other. Her dad and I had an argument on the phone yesterday which completely shattered my whole day, emotionally destroyed me for the day basically - and she was in the room when I was talking to him on the phone. I saw her watching me when I hung up - and I realized what a horrible thing it is, to allow her to see me react in such a negative way.
She's my priority. I feel like I'm falling apart.
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