Do you shush your husband?

Do you ever shush your husband? I got into the practice of doing this many years ago and it made a huge difference for us.

I was reminded of this after I came across a delightful blog post. He related a fight with his wife:

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During the trip I thought long and hard about how I had forgotten my own advice about being open and flexible to her will and showing the love and reverence that I always felt by being calm and ready to change direction when she wanted me to. I thought about how I could better prevent this type of thing from continuing to happen, and I remembered something I had read once about a marriage counselor who was not experiencing great success in her job and had a couple come in that just could not stop fighting. The counselor decided to try a radical new approach. Her advice was for the wife to simply put a band aid on hubbie's mouth when they fought and he would then remember to be silent. He could not speak again until she came and removed it. Everyone thought it was a crazy idea and that it wouldn't work. Even though the counselor never let on that she had her doubts. But as their relationship was just so tattered and close to the end, and little else had worked for them or any other couples, they tried it. The next time they met, the couple were all smiles and the simple "Hush up hubby, your woman is speaking" advice had saved their marriage! The first time they did it, they both started laughing and the fight ended. The next couple of times the silliness had worn off a little but they were both happy and hubby obeyed the rules and the whole situation d-escalated. This silly little example of defining just who was in charge had simplified everything.

(More of my own thoughts.)

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