I will begin my story by saying that I went through a divorce. I was married 16 years and there was little to no sex. Two years later I met a wonderful man. A single dad with two boys. In the beginning the sex was great. We dated for 6 months then I bought a house and they moved in with me and my teenage son.
Two months after we moved in together the sex stopped. He suddenly began having problems with erections. He's 47 and I'm 45 and honestly we look younger. lol
He confided in me that this had been a problem in the past for him. I felt kinda betrayed because I had expressed how important sex and intimacy was for me. It was something that I wanted and needed in my life. I felt like he was no honest from the beginning.
We have tried a few times to have sex. sometimes he does ok. sometimes he doesn't. Most of the time I initiate sex. Or I tell him we are having sex. He never acts interested. I truly feel unattractive at times. I have tried not to be selfish and understanding.
He has visited an MD to talk about this problem but he refuses to take any meds to help.
Tonight we had a sitter so we had a date night. We went out to dinner and a movie and we were home by 9. He immediately went for the couch and TV. I was hurt. I mean how many times are we actually alone.
I basically said I'm not watching TV. He looked at me and said "OH ok". we did have sex at my suggestion. It didn't last long and I felt as if he was pacifying me.
We have had a lot of discussion's about our lack of intimacy. I truly love him but I'm at my wits end. Tonight I told myself that if we didn't have sex I was going to end the relationship.
I just don't know. Am I being selfish? I the last 9 months we have had sex 2 times successfully. we have only tried 4 times. I just feel like he needs to give more effort.
Two months after we moved in together the sex stopped. He suddenly began having problems with erections. He's 47 and I'm 45 and honestly we look younger. lol
He confided in me that this had been a problem in the past for him. I felt kinda betrayed because I had expressed how important sex and intimacy was for me. It was something that I wanted and needed in my life. I felt like he was no honest from the beginning.
We have tried a few times to have sex. sometimes he does ok. sometimes he doesn't. Most of the time I initiate sex. Or I tell him we are having sex. He never acts interested. I truly feel unattractive at times. I have tried not to be selfish and understanding.
He has visited an MD to talk about this problem but he refuses to take any meds to help.
Tonight we had a sitter so we had a date night. We went out to dinner and a movie and we were home by 9. He immediately went for the couch and TV. I was hurt. I mean how many times are we actually alone.
I basically said I'm not watching TV. He looked at me and said "OH ok". we did have sex at my suggestion. It didn't last long and I felt as if he was pacifying me.
We have had a lot of discussion's about our lack of intimacy. I truly love him but I'm at my wits end. Tonight I told myself that if we didn't have sex I was going to end the relationship.
I just don't know. Am I being selfish? I the last 9 months we have had sex 2 times successfully. we have only tried 4 times. I just feel like he needs to give more effort.
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