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background; wife and I have a very colicy 8 week old baby at home. Not sleeping through the night yet and when he colics, he is very painful and the only way to consol him is to hold him. Some times he will sleep well between feedings, sometimes he will colic. He probably colics a little less than 50% of the time.
So that there can be any sleep for either one of us, we take shifts with him at night. Wife is breast feeding and pumping. I will stay up after last breast feeding and give a bottle of breast milk so wife can sleep, then wife gets up and I go to sleep. I am working, wife is currently not working although she plans to go back to work in a couple of months.
When I stay up with him, wife will usually go to bed around 10:00 and I will stay up till about 2:30 - 3:30 then we switch. I get up at 7:00 to get ready for work.
Wife has said several times that I need to get up earlier to help out with things in the morning. I have told her that I don't think I can both stay up late and get up any earlier. Wife is getting mad about it.
I have sugggested that she try to go to sleep earlier but she doesn't want to do that. I have encouraged her to try to nap when she can during the day when he does sleep but she says she doesn't sleep well during the day and doesn't want to do that.
Again, I am working full time and wife is off.
Am I being unreasonable? Is my wife being unreasonable to ask that I both be the one to stay up late and get up early?
Thanks in advance for thoughtful replies.
background; wife and I have a very colicy 8 week old baby at home. Not sleeping through the night yet and when he colics, he is very painful and the only way to consol him is to hold him. Some times he will sleep well between feedings, sometimes he will colic. He probably colics a little less than 50% of the time.
So that there can be any sleep for either one of us, we take shifts with him at night. Wife is breast feeding and pumping. I will stay up after last breast feeding and give a bottle of breast milk so wife can sleep, then wife gets up and I go to sleep. I am working, wife is currently not working although she plans to go back to work in a couple of months.
When I stay up with him, wife will usually go to bed around 10:00 and I will stay up till about 2:30 - 3:30 then we switch. I get up at 7:00 to get ready for work.
Wife has said several times that I need to get up earlier to help out with things in the morning. I have told her that I don't think I can both stay up late and get up any earlier. Wife is getting mad about it.
I have sugggested that she try to go to sleep earlier but she doesn't want to do that. I have encouraged her to try to nap when she can during the day when he does sleep but she says she doesn't sleep well during the day and doesn't want to do that.
Again, I am working full time and wife is off.
Am I being unreasonable? Is my wife being unreasonable to ask that I both be the one to stay up late and get up early?
Thanks in advance for thoughtful replies.
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