This is my first post on the board but its fitting as I need advice.
A little about us, my husband and I have been married almost 10 years, we've been together for almost 14. We have three children 3, 5 & 7. I am 35 and he is 36. I have always felt we have had a pretty good sex life. I would like to think we are pretty adventurous in the bedroom, we both enjoy porn on occasion. Ive never been opposed to different sexual positions, porn or toys, quite the opposite. :)
So I feel we've had a pretty good sex life up until about 3 months ago. My husband loves crossfit and had some big workout. He was exhausted when he came home and we had sex and he couldn't orgasm. Its happened before to each of us, no big deal. I figured he was exhausted. We had sex a few nights later and things were fine. Then almost a month went by with no sex which is kind of weird for both of us. When we did have sex again he couldn't orgasm. The last time was still fresh in mind as he usually never has trouble. Maybe once a year but not twice so close together.
Following this there was a night he couldn't get hard, which is really unusual. Then a few nights later he couldn't orgasm again. This was followed by a few more times of him not being able to orgasm. New Years eve and the night before things were back to normal in the orgasm department.
But tonight it happened again. Not being able to make my husband orgasm is a very new feeling. I dont mean to take it personally but I cant help it. I keep thinking am I not doing something right, does he not love me anymore. I know its stupid to feel that way but I cant help it. He knows I have been upset about it and tonight he immediately said it wasn't me, he loves me and so on. And I do believe that but it doesn't take away this anxiety I am starting to feel.
Advice on what to do?
A little about us, my husband and I have been married almost 10 years, we've been together for almost 14. We have three children 3, 5 & 7. I am 35 and he is 36. I have always felt we have had a pretty good sex life. I would like to think we are pretty adventurous in the bedroom, we both enjoy porn on occasion. Ive never been opposed to different sexual positions, porn or toys, quite the opposite. :)
So I feel we've had a pretty good sex life up until about 3 months ago. My husband loves crossfit and had some big workout. He was exhausted when he came home and we had sex and he couldn't orgasm. Its happened before to each of us, no big deal. I figured he was exhausted. We had sex a few nights later and things were fine. Then almost a month went by with no sex which is kind of weird for both of us. When we did have sex again he couldn't orgasm. The last time was still fresh in mind as he usually never has trouble. Maybe once a year but not twice so close together.
Following this there was a night he couldn't get hard, which is really unusual. Then a few nights later he couldn't orgasm again. This was followed by a few more times of him not being able to orgasm. New Years eve and the night before things were back to normal in the orgasm department.
But tonight it happened again. Not being able to make my husband orgasm is a very new feeling. I dont mean to take it personally but I cant help it. I keep thinking am I not doing something right, does he not love me anymore. I know its stupid to feel that way but I cant help it. He knows I have been upset about it and tonight he immediately said it wasn't me, he loves me and so on. And I do believe that but it doesn't take away this anxiety I am starting to feel.
Advice on what to do?
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