I cannot deny that I still love her. Our downfalls have mostly been communication issues and my self employment ventures that have not been all that financially supporting.
A day after she moved, she sent an email that she had some feelings she was not expecting but no talks of trying to work it out or anything. A couple days later there was a local show that I knew her and our boys would enjoy and asked her to go. She agreed but cancelled the day before.
The other day she was requesting the rest of her things which I sent over. I asked in an email if we were done and she said yes. Maybe I am naive and stupid but I am not sure if we both need that separation to collect thoughts or if her communication is clear and I need to get over it.
There is no cheating or anything and we have been together for 12yrs with 2 kids. She moved only a block away. I am probably talking this up too much on here but I just don't know what to do. If we are done, I would like to move on but I know my heart will not be ready for a long time.
I tend to think if I remain hopeful and see that she takes in someone new in her life, it will devastate me all over again. I think her MC has told her to move on which frustrates me.
I know you guys cannot read minds but does time away pull things back together? Is there a window of time here? If my financial situation was most of the issue and that is corrected, does that mean anything or is that just asking for problems again later?
I am trying to accept my own downfalls but I cannot honestly put all the blame on me. She has serious issues with talking. She wants me to do certain things but never even asks. She does not know how to have a deep conversation. She took our engagement ring off without ever saying a word!
A day after she moved, she sent an email that she had some feelings she was not expecting but no talks of trying to work it out or anything. A couple days later there was a local show that I knew her and our boys would enjoy and asked her to go. She agreed but cancelled the day before.
The other day she was requesting the rest of her things which I sent over. I asked in an email if we were done and she said yes. Maybe I am naive and stupid but I am not sure if we both need that separation to collect thoughts or if her communication is clear and I need to get over it.
There is no cheating or anything and we have been together for 12yrs with 2 kids. She moved only a block away. I am probably talking this up too much on here but I just don't know what to do. If we are done, I would like to move on but I know my heart will not be ready for a long time.
I tend to think if I remain hopeful and see that she takes in someone new in her life, it will devastate me all over again. I think her MC has told her to move on which frustrates me.
I know you guys cannot read minds but does time away pull things back together? Is there a window of time here? If my financial situation was most of the issue and that is corrected, does that mean anything or is that just asking for problems again later?
I am trying to accept my own downfalls but I cannot honestly put all the blame on me. She has serious issues with talking. She wants me to do certain things but never even asks. She does not know how to have a deep conversation. She took our engagement ring off without ever saying a word!
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